utahcon

Was literally talking to my friend about this concept yesterday

First, way to go! You've chosen to be vulnerable, and that is a great first step.

Second, get a therapist. It may seem expensive, and not helpful at first, but as I'm sure you already felt in writing this post, just talking about your thoughts and issues really does help.

Third, it's NEVER too late. I'm 42 and learning and growing daily. I've had to change a lot in the last decade to remain 1) relevant, and 2) in the loop.

I've had to learn to network again, because my original network of friends and colleagues dried up. It's possible, and after you start with a therapist, it'll be easier and more rewarding than ever before.

Finally, and I can't stress this enough, get out and do service for others. Soup kitchens, shoveling snow, cutting grass, whatever you can do. It will give you an immediate jolt of worth, and make the world a better place for all involved.

I wish you luck friend. If you need more talking, let me know utahcon [at] utahcon dot com

Same

To me this comes down to legal. If the person has been documented as a problem, corrective actions have been documented, and whatever you have as an HR dept says it's ok to fire the guy, fire him. If you feel guilty, then offer him a portion of his potential vesting, and explain that he was shit, but you don't want to leave him empty handed.

Is the timing great? No. That's why it must be well documented the behavior your penalizing. He will almost certainly come back to sue you for wrongful termination if there is no documentation (and you have any value to your shares).

Good luck, cut the dead weight, and move on.

Ask for double what you want, to start.

If the feature isn't something on your roadmap, and it is important to you, or important enough for them to contribute brue code themselves, then politely say, "not on our roadmap" and close the issue.

Too bad, I really enjoyed the freedom it offered. Just wish it had worked while I was travelling in Mexico. Oh well.

The only argument I have here (sadly in favor of FB) is with "safeguard people against clone sites". While I did give my data to FB, I didn't approve that transfer to another site/system. That is the only place I could possibly see some legal foot hold.

My mother got me to listen to the directors commentary of SG-1 and there are real gems in there.

For example, how the early seasons had a 1,2,3 use of the phasers. Zap 'em once, and they are incapacitated, twice and they are dead, and 3... cleans up the mess... They abandoned it later because it was "too convenient".

Also, take notice of the giant wrench that appears from time to time in the background scenes in the base.

Also, there are so many callbacks and references in every episode, you really can spend hours or days drawing lines through story elements to see how long running some jokes are in the later parts of the series.

It was down earlier. Wonder if it is at all related to the Facebook/Instagram/Whatapp issues... or just coincidence

Never long enough

I don't have "the answer" but I will share my current experience with you.

I have worked for the company I am with for ~5 years, and I usually take a large chunk of time (2-3 weeks) off at the end of the year to recover and reset. Because of the nature of my work I am pretty busy the rest of the year to take more than a few days at a time for any vacation (read: I work while on vacation).

This year my client was particularly pushy and wanted a butt in a seat over the holidays, and because I was the newest on the contract I was selected to be the person who stayed. This bumped my year end reset into the next year (which almost didn't happen at all).

Come the end of May, I realized I was burned out, only by the way of my clients complaining, and not understanding why I couldn't sit down and give a damn about my work.

I realized I had to do something, or else the cycle would continue and I would end up without a job. I reached out to my manager and said what was going on. Told him I am burned out, I need to take a vacation, I need to get right. My manager took this news with grace, told me to tell my client I would be out sick the rest of the week, and to take PTO the following week.

YMMV, but I can tell you that if you are in a good company and they truly value you, you will get the support you need. Many managers are coming around to the idea that people burn out, and that we need time away from keyboards, phones, and having to worry about work, to truly recover.

If your manager isn't receptive to this, that is a good sign you need to take some time, and look for a new position as well. If you can afford the time, take a week or two between jobs (if you end up leaving), to recover and not just head into your new position with the same burn out you are currently experiencing.

I wish you luck, and hope you are able to get the help/rest you need.