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Joined 4 years ago
Joined 4 years ago
I got on antidepressants and that helped, though it came with it's own set of problems. I started seeing counselors, reading self-help books, I went through 6 months of cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBTi), working with a neurologist to get migraines under control, seeking help wherever I could. It has been a slow process but I'm doing a lot better. I'm still nowhere near where I was cognitively. In fact I don't know that has improved much at all. And it's only been in the past year that I've began to understand my decline as a result of jumping into marriage, fatherhood, and home ownership without the necessary skills to handle them. I'm hopeful things will continue to improve, I've learned an enormous amount about life, fatherhood, marriage, love, forgiveness, hope, and priorities.
If you are a young parent, or considering being a parent soon, work on yourself. Ensure you have the skills you need or your life (and the lives of those near to you) will become a bag of utter despair filled with shit.
If I print documentation I'm going to do it with my home printer and use a 3-ring binder so I think the cost should be do-able. I haven't specced it out exactly but paper is cheap and toner is... cheaper than paying someone else :shrug:
- Practice self denial and doing things that hurt, such as fasting and cold exposure (like a cold shower or cold bath). These are good for people in general. I'm not sure how universal this is but doing these things gives me an incredible sense of accomplishment which makes it easier to do other difficult things that I want to do but otherwise avoid
Good luck, these things are designed to be addictive and our biology has not caught up to give us sufficient built-in resistances. This stuff is very difficult, and kudos for reaching out! You can do this!