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100%, it wasn’t the job that made me burn out it’s just an additional factor. I think the straw that broke the camels back was an argument with my partner.

I like the job, it’s just I’m lacking energy and mental capacity to tackle it.

I’m working on this, I’ve found a therapist who I hope can help me get some clarity.

Because of changing jobs I’ve had a grand total of 2 weeks holiday since June ‘21. In probationary period and zero holiday balance.

Thanks and I hope you get through this! It sounds very similar to my situation.

I left a comfortable job for a challenge, joined another company and within 4 months everything changed and I decided to move again to my now dream job in tech. Every single one there has been something missing.

I’ve also thought about doing something totally different but the problem is with a family there is a requirement for a certain level of “life/living” if it was just me changing to be a taxi driver or something else would be possible as it’s easier to change your living situation if it’s just you.

Thanks for the information I’ll be in touch!

Interesting you said about doing hobbies that don’t involve screens, this is a realisation I’ve had, all of my time is on a screen, I haven’t spoken to anyone face to face in a long time. Even when I was trying to find a therapist they offered virtual meetings. I politely declined and said I would actually like to be in the same room as someone.

I think with home office and being on screens only this doesn’t help with mental health either.

Exactly this :( time is a killer. My day usually starts around 6.30 and ends when the kids go to sleep around 20:00 at which time all I can think about is crawling into bed by 10 to do it all again the next day

Thanks for the tips, I’ll try these!

I’ll be honest I just can’t find the motivation to do so. Even when I’m not so tired I feel guilty about leaving the kids to my wife etc and when I’m out I tend to rush back to support/take over. I know this is probably an issue with how I view this and not necessarily because I’m made to feel guilty.

Whilst I agree fully with you that having a partner take over some of the tasks (kids, etc) she is unable/unwilling to. Net result after speaking to her about burning out, nothing changed, I’m still doing all of the same things I was before and have no way to unload anything. Which makes me question why I’m married and if I should continue to be.

I do love the job, in some ways it’s a dream job, but I just don’t have the energy to learn it or concentrate on it.