mgmeyers

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Comment · 3 years ago

Yes. I'm still recovering (in year 5 of therapy) but notice a night and day difference in my capacity to focus and be present and alert.

> Talk therapy has done little.

I honestly don't think recovery from trauma can be achieved without psychotherapy. You can cover it up, but it's still going to impact your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to some degree. You might get lucky with things like psychedelics, but finding the right therapist and right therapy will bring about change more consistently.

The challenge, however, is that there are many styles of therapy and many styles of therapists. Also, there are different types of trauma (eg. shock trauma, complex trauma, attachment trauma) that require different approaches to treatment. I was lucky in that I found a therapy and therapist that worked for me in my first try. My partner, however, went through 7 therapists over the course of a few years before they found a good fit. Any decent therapist will not be offended if you tell them you feel therapy is not going anywhere, in fact it's in their code of ethics that they need to help you find a better fit.

What works for me isn't going to work for you, but here's my opinion (that you didn't ask for) on therapies that are better at treating trauma than CBT or "traditional" talk therapy: Internal Family Systems therapy, EMDR, the NeuroAffective Relational Model, and Somatic Experiencing / Sensorimotor. AEDP and Coherence Therapy are also decent options. If CBT is all that's available, at least try to find TF-CBT (trauma-focused).

Comment · 4 years ago

Noctis: https://github.com/liviuschera/noctis

Specifically, I try to match the theme variant to my lighting conditions. I had some major eye strain for a while, and doing this with this theme seemed helped.

Comment · 4 years ago

SEEKING WORK

Location: Seattle, WA, USA

Remote: Yes (remote only)

Willing to relocate: No

Technologies: JavaScript (& TypeScript), React, Node.js, Go, and related technologies

Seeking: An ongoing engagement of ~15 per week

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I’m a full-stack developer with 10+ years of experience. I specialize in web development using JavaScript, React, Node.js, and other related technologies. In 2020, I returned to school to pursue a new career as a marriage and family therapist and I’m now seeking an ongoing, part-time arrangement of about 15 hours per week to see me through the next several years of this journey.

I’m interested in any JavaScript related work: testing writing, bug bashing, code maintenance/refactoring, documentation, planning & prototyping, feature development, etc. Give me all your grunt work, or let me loose to build out features or a from-scratch prototype.

See my GitHub profile for several active, open source projects.

Also, please acknowledge that 15 per week will work for you when reaching out

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GitHub: https://github.com/mgmeyers

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mgmeyers/

Personal Website: https://matthewmeye.rs

Email: [email protected]

Comment · 4 years ago

  Location: Seattle, WA
  Remote: Yes (only)
  Willing to relocate: No
  Technologies: JavaScript (& TypeScript), React, Node.js, Go, and related technologies
  Résumé/CV: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mgmeyers/
  Email: [email protected]

Note: I am seeking a part-time arrangement of no more than 15 hours per week.

I’m a full-stack developer with 10+ years of experience. I specialize in web development using JavaScript, React, Node.js, and other related technologies. In 2020, I returned to school to pursue a new career as a marriage and family therapist and I'm now seeking an ongoing, part-time arrangement of about 15 hours per week to see me through the next several years of this journey.

See my GitHub profile for several active, open source projects I'm working on: https://github.com/mgmeyers

Comment · 4 years ago

SEEKING WORK

Location: Seattle, WA, USA

Remote: Yes (remote only)

Willing to relocate: No

Technologies: JavaScript (& TypeScript), React, Node.js, Go, and related technologies

Seeking: An ongoing engagement of ~15 per week

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I’m a full-stack developer with 10+ years of experience. I specialize in web development using JavaScript, React, Node.js, and other related technologies. In 2020, I returned to school to pursue a new career as a marriage and family therapist, and I am seeking an ongoing, part-time arrangement of about 15 hours per week to see me through the next several years of this journey.

See my GitHub profile for several active, open source projects I'm working on.

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GitHub: https://github.com/mgmeyers

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mgmeyers/

Personal Website: https://matthewmeye.rs

Email: [email protected]

Comment · 4 years ago

SEEKING WORK

Location: Seattle, WA, USA

Remote: Yes (remote only)

Willing to relocate: No

Technologies: JavaScript (& TypeScript), React, Node.js, Go, and related technologies

Seeking: An ongoing engagement of ~15 per week

---

I’m a full-stack developer with 10+ years of experience. I specialize in web development using JavaScript, React, Node.js, and other related technologies. In 2020, I returned to school to pursue a new career as a marriage and family therapist, and I am seeking an ongoing, part-time arrangement of about 15 hours per week to see me through the next several years of this journey.

I’m up for any JavaScript related work—testing writing, bug bashing, code maintenance/refactoring, documentation, planning & prototyping, feature development, etc. Give me all your grunt work, or let me loose to build out features or a from-scratch prototype!

---

GitHub: https://github.com/mgmeyers

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mgmeyers/

Personal Website: https://matthewmeye.rs

Email: [email protected]

Comment · 6 years ago

Coherence therapy is a pretty concise approach: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17054323-unlocking-the-e...

Internal family systems is a more elaborate, but thorough approach: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6969927-self-therapy

Comment · 6 years ago

Self-Therapy by Jay Early was the first book I read that gave me lasting, "non-simple" solutions. Totally changed the way I view my own motivations, and shined a light on how absurd the "stop doing it"/"try harder" mentality is.

Comment · 7 years ago

I've struggled with self confidence my entire life. In an effort to change and grow I've read all the major self help books, developed a serious meditation habit, and even turned to potent psychedelics.

The only thing that I found that actually works, however, is internal family systems therapy. Because of IFS (and my therapist) I now know what it's like to be genuinely confident, rather than fighting or pretending to be.

Comment · 7 years ago

That does sound pretty great. After your studies in culture building, what sort of things do you look for in a company?

Ask HN: What Are Some Companies That Foster Employee Happiness and Wellbeing?

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Comment · 7 years ago

SEEKING WORK - Remote (or Seattle, WA)

Full-stack developer with 10 years experience. I’m currently seeking a short term engagement (max 6 months)

I’m experienced in:

    * Modern javascript
    * React
    * Node.js
    * Go
    * Mongodb
    * Sql server
    * Geospatial data processing and visualizations
    * Linux
    * AWS
    * Azure
    * Project planning
    * Architecting
    * Refining vague requirements
    * Working in startup environments
    * Working remotely

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mgmeyers/

Github: https://github.com/mgmeyers

Email: [email protected]

Comment · 10 years ago

I highly recommend Sarno's work as well. I had severe tendinitis in my wrists for about 4 years. I was only able to work about 3 hours a day and was getting pretty desperate, so I decided to give what I thought was Sarno's "crackpot theory" a try. 4 weeks later my tendinitis was completely gone.

Comment · 11 years ago

I would recommend a 10 day vipassana meditation retreat (they're free). They're extremely difficult, but participating in one will jolt you out of your cycle of cravings.

Comment · 11 years ago

> violence is often the moral outgrowth of those who have grown so assured of their righteousness

I like that.

This idea is also present in Buddhism, though they take it a step further and say that all suffering (everything from external violence to internal dissatisfaction with life) is caused by some form of judgment. They say the same thing that you mentioned above: violence is caused by the judgment, "I am right, you are wrong".