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I just backup and sync the files with google drive and everything works well, but I also don't have any plugins installed so I can't vouch for those.

A book about finance (in print) and Isaacson's Ben Franklin bio (on audio).

I could try, but I live in a small midwestern town which is mostly blue-collar (living here to be close to family, also LCOL). The odds of overlapping interests nearby are pretty low.

There is a major metro ~1 hr away but the commute would be killer.

I had the very fortunate experience of being aggressively sought out by a good recruiter for a shoe-in role at a small company. I wish I had some tips to share but I think my experience is non-replicable.

> will probably get you new acquaintances soon ... 33 is hardly even "getting middle aged".

Ha, yes, saying "old" is definitely being melodramatic. I suppose I am concerned that, given my current bland state, I will have a hard time creating and sustaining connections with the ample time I have left.

> good for you. That in itself is a huge accomplishment. Not everyone can say that.

Yes, that is a good perspective. Hedonic adaptation really applies to everything

> things that you can share with your kids or as a family

Yeah I think that is part of the answer. I have perhaps over-optimized deferring to what my family wants/needs but it would probably be better for everyone if I had something I was excited to do and set aside time around that.

Ha, well my job is the one part of my life I feel really good about. I'm learning a lot, have plenty of autonomy, the work is interesting/challenging, and I see a path to having a lot of impact in this role and whatever I do next (assuming human intelligence is still needed over the next few decades).

Really good comment. While I am somewhat concerned about people in general finding me interesting, the real concern is that I don't think my family finds me all that interesting. I am available and attentive but I don't think I bring all that much to the table in terms of fun.

Haha doing shit with my kids is something I should lean into more. We do a lot of vacations of course and those are always a lot of fun,

I think I feel selfish if I spend family time on my interests but that would probably be preferable to a blob of a dad who doesn't have anything he is excited to do.

I have done coaching and my son loved it so I will try to keep that up. I wasn't really able to connect with any of the other parents though, I don't think any of them would recognize me if they ran into me at the grocery store.

I do read a lot to the kids, that has been great.

Unfortunately I think I _am_ boring to my wife and kids. I spend lots of time with them and I am very attentive to their needs, but I feel that I don't come in with my own interests or personality.

But I like the tack of this comment, I should focus my attention on the core set of people I care about.

This a fair point, one that my wife always makes to me. I guess I just feel like I can do better? I know other dads who have plenty of time consuming hobbies -- they seem to fit it all in, why can't I?