frasertimo

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Former Head of Marketing for Go Vocab. Currently marketing intern for Postmasculine.com
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Comment · 14 years ago
Needed to be said.
Comment · 14 years ago
Reread the blog post. Misunderstood the issue. I stand corrected.
Comment · 14 years ago
They advertise that it will work?
Comment · 14 years ago
It seems the reason for your disappointment was lack of research. If you knew you were going to use it with projectors, I'm not sure why you wouldn't look into that, especially since the Macbook Air only has thunderbolt.
Comment · 14 years ago
Not sure. Maybe it triggered some sort of filter because it's about pornography. Does anyone know if there's anyone you can contact about this? I've tried emailing the ycombinator address, but I'm not super hopeful for a reply.
Comment · 14 years ago
Not really, the other elements of sex are what keep 'regular' sex interesting; the connection, the variety of foreplay or positions, the fact that there's a real person there :D

I won't pretend to know much about the science behind it, but my understanding is that a habit of porn removes the link between being horny and then becoming sexually aroused. So instead of getting an erection because you see your sexy wife, you're getting one because you're so used to watching porn at 2 am before bed. And the extremely graphic and immediate nature of porn means that habit is a very strong one. It's like a chocolate bar in the immediate gratification and overwhelming of your senses. Whereas sex with a wife is more like a delicious but wholesome meal you sit down and enjoy. And that continues to be delicious no matter how much you eat it.

Oh, and since when was wanting your wife to dress up as Princess Leia seen as kinky? :P

Comment · 14 years ago
Take a look at http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/. It's an entire site dedicated to explaining the effects of porn on your sex drive and encouraging men to give it up. Lots of links to supporting evidence there.

The article is really more about the author's personal experience with giving up porn and that of his readers. I gave it up myself earlier this year, and have noticed a definite improvement. Don't have issues with getting/keeping it up. I don't think my results were as near as impressive as others were either, as I wasn't anywhere near watching it daily.

As for the book on how to attract women, I'm not sure what advising guys to give up porn has to do with it. Wouldn't you be fine with guys watching it, because that encourages them to idealize women and fantasize about sleeping with them more? Giving up porn would cause them to become less obsessed with their sex life and focus more on the rest of their lives. Don't know how that means they're more likely to buy dating advice. Which is fine by us because we're gearing the site to be less and less about dating these days :)

Comment · 14 years ago
Comment · 14 years ago
Thanks. One of our unofficial goals is to not be an Askmen ripoff with better writing. I enjoy reading Askmen articles once in a while, especially when I need something very specific and practical like how to tie a bow tie, or when I want to waste some time on a 'top 10 hottest chicks in surrealist Angolian horror films' list or something equally mindless. But we're aiming to go a little deeper than that :)

Any more feedback, negative or positive is much appreciated.

Comment · 14 years ago
Employee of the site here. Just want to point out a few things.

1. The submitter of the article to HN has no affiliation with Postmasculine as far as I know, nor did we request them to post it here. We're very grateful for them doing so however!

2. While the author of the site was involved in the pickup industry for a while, he chose to no longer identify with that scene over two years ago, and specifically moved his content away from its perspective, even going so far as to systemically deconstruct the flaws and failures of Pickup theory and the community it created. So we don't feel that 'pickup' really represents what the site has to say about dating. Although we definitely do talk about meeting women. A lot. :)

3. While we're dedicated internet marketing students, we're far from experts on the subject. We're putting a lot of time and effort into improving the site's marketing, but our number one focus will always be on providing high quality content that is as no BS and realistic as possible. Hopefully anyone who came from HN and spends further time reading the site will agree.

I realize your comment wasn't a criticism, but just thought I'd try and give a bit more context to the situation. Thanks for assuming we were so professional!

Comment · 14 years ago

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