frasertimo
Joined 15 years ago
Joined 15 years ago
I won't pretend to know much about the science behind it, but my understanding is that a habit of porn removes the link between being horny and then becoming sexually aroused. So instead of getting an erection because you see your sexy wife, you're getting one because you're so used to watching porn at 2 am before bed. And the extremely graphic and immediate nature of porn means that habit is a very strong one. It's like a chocolate bar in the immediate gratification and overwhelming of your senses. Whereas sex with a wife is more like a delicious but wholesome meal you sit down and enjoy. And that continues to be delicious no matter how much you eat it.
Oh, and since when was wanting your wife to dress up as Princess Leia seen as kinky? :P
The article is really more about the author's personal experience with giving up porn and that of his readers. I gave it up myself earlier this year, and have noticed a definite improvement. Don't have issues with getting/keeping it up. I don't think my results were as near as impressive as others were either, as I wasn't anywhere near watching it daily.
As for the book on how to attract women, I'm not sure what advising guys to give up porn has to do with it. Wouldn't you be fine with guys watching it, because that encourages them to idealize women and fantasize about sleeping with them more? Giving up porn would cause them to become less obsessed with their sex life and focus more on the rest of their lives. Don't know how that means they're more likely to buy dating advice. Which is fine by us because we're gearing the site to be less and less about dating these days :)
Our POV on what defines 'pickup' advice versus regular dating advice is that 'pickup' is the decision to objectify your sex life in order to improve it. We don't believe that this is a healthy or effective mindset, hence we don't define our material as 'pickup'.
Honestly, I think if you read some more of the site, for example http://postmasculine.com/why-its-so-hard or especially http://postmasculine.com/pickup-artist (warning: long) you'd come to the conclusion that we're a far shot from what most people associate pickup with. But it's up to you whether you want to spend the time :)
Any more feedback, negative or positive is much appreciated.
1. The submitter of the article to HN has no affiliation with Postmasculine as far as I know, nor did we request them to post it here. We're very grateful for them doing so however!
2. While the author of the site was involved in the pickup industry for a while, he chose to no longer identify with that scene over two years ago, and specifically moved his content away from its perspective, even going so far as to systemically deconstruct the flaws and failures of Pickup theory and the community it created. So we don't feel that 'pickup' really represents what the site has to say about dating. Although we definitely do talk about meeting women. A lot. :)
3. While we're dedicated internet marketing students, we're far from experts on the subject. We're putting a lot of time and effort into improving the site's marketing, but our number one focus will always be on providing high quality content that is as no BS and realistic as possible. Hopefully anyone who came from HN and spends further time reading the site will agree.
I realize your comment wasn't a criticism, but just thought I'd try and give a bit more context to the situation. Thanks for assuming we were so professional!
Anyway, I mainly wanted to ask what people thought of the site apart from that article. Did you read anything else and did you like it or dislike it? If so, what articles did you read?
Thanks!