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"Conflict is essential to human life, whether between different aspects of oneself, between oneself and the environment, between different individuals or between different groups. It follows that the aim of healthy living is not the direct elimination of conflict, which is possible only by forcible suppression of one or other of its antagonistic components, but the toleration of it—the capacity to bear the tensions of doubt and of unsatisfied need and the willingness to hold judgement in suspense until finer and finer solutions can be discovered which integrate more and more the claims of both sides. It is the psychologist's job to make possible the acceptance of such an idea so that the richness of the varieties of experience, whether within the unit of the single personality or in the wider unit of the group, can come to expression."

Marion Milner, 'The Toleration of Conflict', Occupational Psychology, 17, 1, January 1943

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Comment · 1 hour ago

We've banned this account for repeatedly breaking the site guidelines and ignoring our request to stop.

If you don't want to be banned, you're welcome to email [email protected] and give us reason to believe that you'll follow the rules in the future. They're here: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html.

Comment · 1 hour ago

Not sure who you mean by "this person" but if you mean the author of the article, that would be dipping a toe into personal attack, which we really ask people to avoid here.

(Note the "evokes worse from others bit" in my comment below—I'm sure it's not what you intended but this is exactly how that works.)

(Also of course, persons don't need to be relevant for articles to be interesting, and it's the latter that we're shooting for.)

Comment · 1 hour ago

Can you please not do this here? That is, not fulminate and not cross into personal attack in HN comments?

I realize that this kind of remark is better-intentioned than it comes across on the internet. In personal conversation it can be just another way of chatting and making sense of the world. Tone of voice can do a lot to modulate pejoratives.

But in an online forum like HN it degrades and makes conversation more shallow, and tends to evoke worse from others, leading to downward-spiral-mode, which we're really trying to avoid here.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

Comment · 2 hours ago

Recent and related:

'Elite North Korean hackers' blamed for $6.3B Binance hack - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=50300853 - Oct 2026 (228 comments)

Binance-hacker-1029 – $5.6B stolen from Binance - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=50296470 - Oct 2026 (1237 comments)

Comment · 2 hours ago

I think I have. Softer tends to work better.

(You might be overvaluing danhood though!)

Comment · 22 hours ago

> Sam Altman can eat my entire ass.

Can you please not do this here? It's not what HN is for, and destroys what it is for.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

Comment · 22 hours ago

Could you please stop breaking the site guidelines? It seems your account has been using HN for nothing but ideological battle and flamebait. Regardless of what you're for or against, that's not what this site is for.

We've already asked you about this multiple times. I don't want to ban you because you've posted good comments in the past, though finding them is rather difficult given the large proportion of snark and flamebait in your comment feed.

If you would please review https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and stick to substantive, curious conversation, that would be good.

Comment · 1 day ago

Herdr Studio - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=49652188 - Sept 2026 (20 comments)

Connecting the machines - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=49612818 - Sept 2026 (35 comments)

Herdr now connects to multiple servers with a single client - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=49602323 - Sept 2026 (3 comments)

Herdr is joining Y Combinator. The runtime stays open - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=49201003 - Aug 2026 (189 comments)

Herdr: One terminal to rule them all - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=48756578 - July 2026 (178 comments)

Herdr: Agent multiplexer that lives in your terminal - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=48714802 - June 2026 (110 comments)

Comment · 1 day ago

Karma isn't a factor. Nor is authority. Just interestingness! That's really all we care about.

In this case someone emailed us and recommended this post for the SCP (https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=26998308).

Comment · 1 day ago

Cormac McCarthy's personal library - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=45444694 - Oct 2025 (138 comments)

Comment · 1 day ago

I know this kind of thing brings up strong emotions for most people—it does for me too—but you can't fairly judge another person's intimate relationships* from the handful of details that appear in a news article, and responding with personal denunciation is against both HN's rules (https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html) and its intended spirit.

We mostly don't know why other people do what they do, nor what they've gone through themselves, and we tend to be harshest and most uncharitable when we know the least.

Does that mean that the family impact of taking such a path in life should be off-topic in a thread like this? Not at all. But to be within HN's guidelines and (more importantly) its intended spirit, you should do it differently—not in a condemnatory way, but in a wondering way, and perhaps drawing connections to one's own experience, which always helps.

The goal is to have a curious conversation, rather than a reductive one. That's always the goal here! https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true&sor....

(* assuming one can ever do that, or that it's one's place to try)

Comment · 1 day ago

That's interesting! I've re-upped your Show HN (https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=50278678) using HN's second-chance mechanism (described https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=26998308).

(Posting here since we don't have another way to contact you, and of course that thread will be better with you in it...)