bszupnick
Joined 8 years ago
Joined 8 years ago
The more we learn about animals (see the article on HN ~2 days ago that bees engage in play) the more it seems like they're a lot more like us than we'd like to think. We're smart, and we can try to explain every thing away (like you do in your comment), but there's a pattern that's emerging. It's an uncomfortable pattern and I get why we try to convince ourselves that animals are fundamentally different than we are, but I'm more and more believing that we're all actually a lot more similar than we'd like to think.
A lot of my current thinking is from the book How to be Animal by Melanie Challenger. I recommend it!
Hearkens back to that feeling of all of us being internet citizens and laughing that I'm not the only one that makes this mistake.
Maybe I'm looking into it too much, though ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
It's akin to saying "Just choose to read a book. Drop heroin".
We'd like to think we have such control, but the fact is that these things are addictive and one can't simply "just stop" without a process and a culture that promotes these processes.
Phone, wallet, keys, Kobo. That habit was a much easier lift than the guilt-inducing "must read X pages/hours per Y" demands on myself, and it led to more reading.
(sarcasm, obviously, but unfortunately a common undertone with a lot of conversations in general but specifically on covid.
For the non-Hebrew speakers, Hebrew has some letters that change form when placed at the end of the word. The Hebrew keyboard has these forms in their own key, but colloquially they're the same letter.
Also the concept of "high-involvement cooperative overlapping" is something that was recently pointed out to me by my brother, and honestly once it was named, solved a lot of marital issues between my wife and I. I would constantly interrupt her as a way of communicating that I was ardently listening and sympathizing and she'd get offended. On the flip-side, I'd be emoting to her and she would just sit and listen to me without interrupting and I would feel like she wasn't paying attention.
Once we realized this was a real cultural difference, it was something we're able understand about each other.
I couldn't ask him if his taste has diminished. All I knew was he was having sever upper respiratory issues.
We've paid ~$10k in medical expenses up until now, and daycare is ~$2k a month (context; Long Island, NY).
The medical expenses PILE UP. Obviously the birth they filled up my wife's deductible, but then (and I should have predicted this) they started filling up our newborn's!
Our 3 month old then had a cold so we took him to the doctor who checked for RSV and covid with one swab. We got a bill for $1600.
And daycare? You need a VERY flexible job to handle a kid in daycare. LO gets his normal vaccines and springs a fever? He needs to stay home for 2 days. Daycare also took a long memorial day weekend AND the last day of June was off too for "between semesters".
Having a kid in daycare is a part-time job with unexpected hours that you pay a ton to have.
Thank God I work at a wonderful company that is SUPER understanding because I don't know what we'd do if it didn't.