anon-ex-uber

> What exactly is the point of writing and publishing this as an article?

Mainly for my own healing and to see what others think about the situation, as I’ve had a difficult time parsing things on my end. I don’t expect people to “rise up” over this. It would be silly to think so.

For clarity, we did not date. It was a "one-off" instance where she invited me out and then changed her mind shortly after. The events that had me get my manager / HR involved were months after the fact.

> OP can't even articulate what exactly justified his original complaint in the first place, even if he didn't voluntarily delete the evidence.

I made it pretty clear in my post that she was consistently disrespectful towards me, even going so far as to say in front of coworkers at a team event that she was "surprised that I read." Reverse the gender roles and see if your opinion changes.

> He didn't document in any way to the company that he was legitimately disabled (if he had a pre-existing diagnosis he wouldn't have needed to go to the company tele-therapy service).

I provided evidence to HR/ER that I had been previously in-patient hospitalized for OCD and severe major depressive disorder, and that I had been seeing a therapist outside of Uber for the last four years. I only transitioned to the Uber therapist around the time HR got involved because it made more sense financially.

> The company even accommodated his HR complaint by moving him away from the person he filed a complaint about to a different office...and of course that's when he starts complaining about the commute.

This was because of her HR complaint, not mine. I did not want to commute two and a half hours round trip to Sunnyvale. That's absurd.

If you are a male, you sadly have little recourse. Just have to suck it up I guess.

I am hesitant to share company DMs for obvious reasons.

I wasn't asking if I could file a lawsuit. I sent Uber Legal a pro se demand letter indicating that I would be following up with further legal action unless a settlement could be agreed upon.

I was the one who let HR know that I sent her the message.