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I really appreciate your thoughts and understand your POV about self improvement and I agree that those things are important for growth. However, I still believe that everyone’s journey is different. While some people thrive through struggle and persistence, others might find different paths to success, such as creativity, collaboration, or external opportunities. Every person has their own unique way of intelligence—whether it's linguistic, logical, spatial, emotional, or any other type. However, trauma and emotional struggles can seriously affect a person's cognitive and emotional abilities, making it difficult for them to recognize their potential or use their intelligence effectively. It's not that I'm not trying to move forward or improve myself, I am trying. I'm trying a lot, but the problem is that I feel like time is passing, yet I'm still stuck where I was years ago while I've seen others move forward, even though they had to work harder. but do you know, How does it feel to be a brilliant student at one point, only to gradually see your intelligence fade away, knowing why it happened, yet being unable to help yourself?...It feels like you're trapped in sleep paralysis

yeah you're right...I thought by sharing them among people I don't know, maybe it would help me lessen the chaos inside me. But now, I feel like I'm turning myself into a spectacle

I really hope you find some peace of mind :)

You’re oversimplifying things and making super generalized assumptions. Every individual and situation has its own unique context, which you’ve completely overlooked.

>You said convincing skills only come from personal struggles.

Convincing actually depends on other factors too, like communication skills, empathy, and understanding the audience’s perspective. Struggles might be part of it, but they’re not the whole story. Not every smart person goes through intense struggles. Some people are naturally skilled and can be convincing without dealing with major internal battles. And even if we agree that struggle builds convincing skills… what about the people whose struggles impact them negatively instead of helping them grow?

>You also said the core of smartness is persistence and willpower.

Smartness isn’t just about persistence. It’s multidimensional—creativity, problem-solving, and adaptability play a huge role too. Plus, persistence alone doesn’t guarantee success. Opportunities, environment, and even luck are equally important.

>you said young people usually think they’ve tried everything and failed.

That’s not fair. Young people have their own way of seeing the world, and their experiences matter, even if they’re limited. Calling them “delusional” dismisses their efforts and doesn’t give their struggles the respect they deserve.

Thanks for your kind words but your last line really amazed me...I think you're interested in Philosophy or Sufism...btw...I'm from Pakistan, doing my bachelor's in philosophy, and my final year just started this month. The problem is, I don’t have much time to think things through because my degree’s about to end, and I need to make a decision before my family makes one for me—but honestly, I’m super scared...because tell me where do you go when your house isn't home??...