Comment by poemxo

I am guessing the author is either criticizing people who are anti-social (in the pop culture definition) or believes he was before and after some thinking arrived at the conclusion that antisociety was not the way. But I don't feel it describes my internal motivations, so I've translated them to my behaviors:

- if someone is confusing or upsetting you, assume it is your fault

- interpret others' actions in the context of your fears (this one is spot on)

- assume your assumptions are wrong and that you shouldn't even bother

- pivot conversations when someone asks you about something you actually know or are good at, it might be a trick, tell them you're dumb instead

- if you must ask questions, convince yourself you must not, just figure it out instead

- dig in your heels at no point in time whatsoever and just tell people the minimum they need to hear so they leave

- do not develop narratives or it means you will have an immediate network

- do not research the acumen or credentials of anyone

- do not grant grace to those who make mistakes, they might actually be wrong and you're not a judge

- when all hope is lost in conversation, pretend to take their side to end the conversation

- do not seek to understand anyone at all