Rape culture is real. Sexual violence is common. Serious feminist liberation has to come with the total dismantling of rape culture.
"Men who don't rape really do want to rape and just exert enormous self control over their intense desire to rape" is not the conclusion to draw from this. The fact that you seem to think that this is fairly universal to men tells us something about you that is worrying to many readers.
I can assure you that it takes me zero self control to not rape or sexually abuse women and zero self control to not cheat on my wife.
"Men who don't rape really do want to rape and just exert enormous self control over their intense desire to rape" is not the conclusion to draw from this. The fact that you seem to think that this is fairly universal to men tells us something about you that is worrying to many readers.
I can assure you that it takes me zero self control to not rape or sexually abuse women and zero self control to not cheat on my wife.