Comment by hungie

Yep! You are right that it's hard. But also, when a group says, "please stop calling us X", it's not just in group signaling.

I'm disabled. Do not call me differently abled. I'm sorry if you had a textbook that taught you to do so, and I will gently gently correct you.

Language always evolves. If you can learn what "yeet" means, you can practice using words people prefer for their groups.