Hey HN,
I'm on my 3rd consecutive job that I hate. I'm a manager, though I've remained very technical and actively coding. I've liked all the teams I hired, and always had really good feedback from them and well above average survey ratings. I want to feel happy about work again.
Despite spending more and more time carefully picking a job, it always feels like I'm either deceived, or missed some stuff I should have caught earlier.
I can't get out of bed, am tired all the time. Sometimes on the brink of tears. I'm at a spot where it's very obvious to me that I'm depressed, it's impacting my family life. I'm losing my time, and should look elsewhere. But I've had 4 different jobs over the past 6y, and I'd love to settle somewhere. When stuff is f-ed up 3 times in a row, it's time to look at yourself in the mirror ; either I have the wrong expectations, not enough patience, or I don't know how to find a job that is right for me. I think it's a combination of all three.
What really f-ed me up is a brief, recent period of feeling love towards my job when I had hope to change the scope towards something more useful, that reminded me how it can feel.
If you love the job you're in, how did you find it? What are the concessions you made? What are the red flags (or the right signs) to tell you a job is the right one? Did you manage to reform a shitty job in something at least tenable?
I'm on my 3rd consecutive job that I hate. I'm a manager, though I've remained very technical and actively coding. I've liked all the teams I hired, and always had really good feedback from them and well above average survey ratings. I want to feel happy about work again.
Despite spending more and more time carefully picking a job, it always feels like I'm either deceived, or missed some stuff I should have caught earlier.
I can't get out of bed, am tired all the time. Sometimes on the brink of tears. I'm at a spot where it's very obvious to me that I'm depressed, it's impacting my family life. I'm losing my time, and should look elsewhere. But I've had 4 different jobs over the past 6y, and I'd love to settle somewhere. When stuff is f-ed up 3 times in a row, it's time to look at yourself in the mirror ; either I have the wrong expectations, not enough patience, or I don't know how to find a job that is right for me. I think it's a combination of all three.
What really f-ed me up is a brief, recent period of feeling love towards my job when I had hope to change the scope towards something more useful, that reminded me how it can feel.
If you love the job you're in, how did you find it? What are the concessions you made? What are the red flags (or the right signs) to tell you a job is the right one? Did you manage to reform a shitty job in something at least tenable?