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I agree with others that social awkwardness is something that just lessens over time. I mean, you may still be awkward, but so is almost everyone else, and you realize that no one actually cares about your awkwardness. Actually, almost everyone else is focused on their own awkwardness. The smoothest talkers are those who have actively worked on their social skills and are even more self focused.

So - socialize more, get older, and stop worrying about what others think of you, and you'll find it stops mattering. If you want, you can also turn yourself into a smooth talking politician/comedian/whatever through deliberate practice, to reduce any bumps of awkwardness. But I think this is only worth doing to achieve some personal goal.

I would say though that actual social anxiety is a different beast. I had severe social anxiety into my 30s, and the only thing that really helped with that was drugs and therapy.

parent nvarsj 4 years ago

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