I'd argue that you're probably holding yourself to a standard that is more/less unachievable in such an interdependent world. It's idealistic and idealism is a square peg in the funny shaped hole of reality.
Taking accountability and having backup plans are extremely important, but you simply can't remove every last shred of dependence. You eventually have to accept that there are things that are out of your control and may take you by surprise despite best efforts.
Taking accountability and having backup plans are extremely important, but you simply can't remove every last shred of dependence. You eventually have to accept that there are things that are out of your control and may take you by surprise despite best efforts.