Yes, I can also throw out facts about my life to try and garner sympathy points.
My initial post was in no way whatsoever some attempt to "garner sympathy points." The amount of shit I have to put up with on HN for posting as openly female means, no, I absolutely am not here with some completely deluded agenda to get some kind of sympathy from anyone at all.
I fairly frequently post to provide a female point of view backed up by data and personal first-hand experience and I generally explain who I am when I am doing that because when I don't, it is all too common for someone to assume I'm male and to accuse me of some ridiculous bullshit -- like being a rapey, misogynistic bastard -- for holding some of the views I hold.
Marrying a soldier was standing up for myself. It was my ticket out of an abusive situation where I had been molested and raped by relatives. It got me the hell out of Dodge very quietly without any public drama or need to file restraining orders or other shit that just keeps you a prisoner of your abusers.
That also isn't me looking for some sympathy vote. I'm quite open about having been sexually abused as a child. If that's news to you, well, sorry. It's not anything I haven't said a zillion times on HN and elsewhere.
My initial post was in no way whatsoever some attempt to "garner sympathy points." The amount of shit I have to put up with on HN for posting as openly female means, no, I absolutely am not here with some completely deluded agenda to get some kind of sympathy from anyone at all.
I fairly frequently post to provide a female point of view backed up by data and personal first-hand experience and I generally explain who I am when I am doing that because when I don't, it is all too common for someone to assume I'm male and to accuse me of some ridiculous bullshit -- like being a rapey, misogynistic bastard -- for holding some of the views I hold.
Marrying a soldier was standing up for myself. It was my ticket out of an abusive situation where I had been molested and raped by relatives. It got me the hell out of Dodge very quietly without any public drama or need to file restraining orders or other shit that just keeps you a prisoner of your abusers.
That also isn't me looking for some sympathy vote. I'm quite open about having been sexually abused as a child. If that's news to you, well, sorry. It's not anything I haven't said a zillion times on HN and elsewhere.