I recently received a compelling offer from a major company out in SV. Career wise, this is my dream job, or at least it seems that way. Now that I have the offer, I am having some major second thoughts about relocating out to the Valley.
Part of it is fear of the unknown and stress of relocation(even though the company will cover all relo). Another, more critical part is that my girlfriend (mostly) does not want to uproot and move either. We had been planning on moving in together prior to this offer, but now everything has been turned upside down. We've talked over it pretty extensively, and as it stands now she really does not want to go, and while I have my concerns, I lean towards taking the plunge.
My fear is that I may need to choose between a great offer or the girl I am likely going to propose to. So I ask HN: those who have had a similar decision to make, what did you do? How did it turn out? If you ended up declining, how did you go about it and how did it turn out?
I'm not really looking for advice on what I should do (I am aware that it's my decision), but more on how you came to your decision, your thought process, etc. I know I should be excited to have a great offer, but the stress of the relocation decision is quickly turning this into the toughest decision I've faced.
Part of it is fear of the unknown and stress of relocation(even though the company will cover all relo). Another, more critical part is that my girlfriend (mostly) does not want to uproot and move either. We had been planning on moving in together prior to this offer, but now everything has been turned upside down. We've talked over it pretty extensively, and as it stands now she really does not want to go, and while I have my concerns, I lean towards taking the plunge.
My fear is that I may need to choose between a great offer or the girl I am likely going to propose to. So I ask HN: those who have had a similar decision to make, what did you do? How did it turn out? If you ended up declining, how did you go about it and how did it turn out?
I'm not really looking for advice on what I should do (I am aware that it's my decision), but more on how you came to your decision, your thought process, etc. I know I should be excited to have a great offer, but the stress of the relocation decision is quickly turning this into the toughest decision I've faced.