Comment by justsid

Not trying to tell you how to live your life, but being an open book to the other isn‘t very trusting. If your trust is build around being able to spy on the other, maybe you aren‘t trusting each other that much. My wife and I both have our own separate phones and computers without each other being able to access it and I trust her not to do anything that goes against our interests and vice versa. That‘s what trust is, not having to know what the other does and knowing they are doing the right thing.