I don't know why you were downvoted. It's an interesting question you bring up, maybe I can offer some perspective. Why do you feel not high value? You must have had poor experiences on the dating market I reckon.
Here's the thing though. Your valuable traits you've listed imply a lot about your potential to provide (clarification: survival resources). In a first-world country where the women have their material resources met, the women just don't need that provider value as much. Think about it: Bay Area has a lot of above-average net worth families. Women are highly educated and employed. So your ability to provide, in and of itself, I don't think will be very attractive in your environment.
Would it be more attractive to an East Asian from a less prosperous background? I would think so.
Why is this? Harsher environments change sexual strategies and preferences. I highly recommend watching this video on r-K selection theory, it most certainly applies to humans as well on some level: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V06JBpW6O7I&index=3&list=PLM...
Anyways, what now? Let's say you agree with my premise. I've seen plenty of guys there. I'm guessing you're a highly intelligent and hard-working first or second generation immigrant with a technical job. I've seen this pattern a lot: people like this have trouble with Western women. Well, you need to play more to social status to differentiate yourself. Things like charisma, social dominance, preselection (women like men that other women like) are things to look into. Looking good physically as a man goes a long way as well: get on a solid lifting / bodybuilding program, groom and dress well. There are plenty of resources all around for these things I've mentioned.
To summarize: it's 2016 and you live in the Bay Area. You don't need to provide for women. You need to excite them. You need to differentiate from other men in attractiveness, both socially and physically. There are certain parts of the internet which focus on this stuff and have proven results, though I'll let you search around rather than linking anything here on HN (though I think someone else in this thread posted a link).
Here's the thing though. Your valuable traits you've listed imply a lot about your potential to provide (clarification: survival resources). In a first-world country where the women have their material resources met, the women just don't need that provider value as much. Think about it: Bay Area has a lot of above-average net worth families. Women are highly educated and employed. So your ability to provide, in and of itself, I don't think will be very attractive in your environment.
Would it be more attractive to an East Asian from a less prosperous background? I would think so.
Why is this? Harsher environments change sexual strategies and preferences. I highly recommend watching this video on r-K selection theory, it most certainly applies to humans as well on some level: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V06JBpW6O7I&index=3&list=PLM...
Anyways, what now? Let's say you agree with my premise. I've seen plenty of guys there. I'm guessing you're a highly intelligent and hard-working first or second generation immigrant with a technical job. I've seen this pattern a lot: people like this have trouble with Western women. Well, you need to play more to social status to differentiate yourself. Things like charisma, social dominance, preselection (women like men that other women like) are things to look into. Looking good physically as a man goes a long way as well: get on a solid lifting / bodybuilding program, groom and dress well. There are plenty of resources all around for these things I've mentioned.
To summarize: it's 2016 and you live in the Bay Area. You don't need to provide for women. You need to excite them. You need to differentiate from other men in attractiveness, both socially and physically. There are certain parts of the internet which focus on this stuff and have proven results, though I'll let you search around rather than linking anything here on HN (though I think someone else in this thread posted a link).