Here's an uncomfortable thought: an effective 1-to-1 mapping between men and women probably doesn't exist.
So why am I not a high value male? I have an Ivy league education. I have a 6 figure income. I'm creative. I'm talented, to the point where I've competed in international music competitions. I think it's telling that the majority of the messages I get on Tinder are from east asians.
I've also commented here in the past when I was dating a creole woman, and I was disappointed in the number of fellow commenters here who rejected the idea of dating someone apparently based on their race. The US, California, and the Bay Area in particular are fabulous multicultural societies, in the global and historical context. However, it's far from colorblind here. I've been racially an "anomaly" most of my life. The Bay Area is the first time I've experienced what it's like to be part of a "them."
So why am I not a high value male? I have an Ivy league education. I have a 6 figure income. I'm creative. I'm talented, to the point where I've competed in international music competitions. I think it's telling that the majority of the messages I get on Tinder are from east asians.
I've also commented here in the past when I was dating a creole woman, and I was disappointed in the number of fellow commenters here who rejected the idea of dating someone apparently based on their race. The US, California, and the Bay Area in particular are fabulous multicultural societies, in the global and historical context. However, it's far from colorblind here. I've been racially an "anomaly" most of my life. The Bay Area is the first time I've experienced what it's like to be part of a "them."