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Don't feel bad, I think this happens to a lot of us.

TLDR: learn to chill and enjoy your career and free time doing the things you like most, with the people you like the most.

I decided to get back to a technical role (from management) because it's what got me excited about tech in the first place; but I have become very protective of my time.

MY TIME is just that, and not for sale, and non-negotiable.

I don't mind not being the best in the room, and I feel it's better that my younger colleagues get a chance to take charge while I provide support when needed.

Focus on the important things, family, hobbies, friends, building your network, and enjoying your free time. In tech you can always have a nice career and a nice salary, even if you're not at "the top"... learn to chill and enjoy your career and the wonderful opportunity you have in this golden age of technology because it won't last forever.

I'm surprised he didn't dedicate himself to volunteering, I assume he doesn't need the job because of money, and volunteering should provide a lot more connection to community and a feeling of "making a difference" that so many seek.

Alternatively a hobby farm or vineyard can give you plenty of opportunities to do manual labour and have varying amounts of responsibility; and I imagine it would be quite a bit more enjoyable than an Amazon warehouse.

To each his own I suppose. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I would imagine it's because classic family values are incompatible with "hookup culture" and unfettered access to sex for money, and it seems that society is sitting on the fence as to which they want for the long term.

Of course I could be totally wrong.

They do, but not if you use a commercial platform.

Host your own infrastructure (ftp/email/www/etc.) and use Btc, and you will have a lot more liberty but not "reach"... so you can't have your cake and eat it too.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

> I know that I have always been a big kid all my life

Same.

You don't have to become a different person, just get yourself through the rut, don't do something you know you'll regret. This is just a passing phase.

I’m rooting for you :)

I was going to leave a harsh comment hoping that the "tough love" sort of approach might help to get you thinking straight but I've decided against it since we don't know each other and everyone's situation is different.

I'll just say that you need to "man up". Life is not always fun/nice/enjoyable/easy/etc. and sometimes you just have to realize that your responsibilities are more important than your feelings; especially when children are involved.

Just know that what you're feeling is normal, it WILL pass (probably in a couple of short years), and you should resist doing anything stupid or permanent. Don't make mistakes with permanent consequences because you are going through a temporary rut.

Exercise and socializing will likely help take the edge off.

You have the good half of your life ahead of you, don't forget that.

If you still need convincing, maybe a therapist is the right choice.

Good luck friend.

This is almost always the case, no matter the service we're talking about.

Anyone who's been to a "real" trailer park will probably never want to come near a mobile home, let alone romanticize about it.

The "high end" units that are shown in architectural design magazines and the like are really cool, they're modern, stylish, and really just someone's hobby... but the reality of mobile home living is very different.

I've have friends who lived in mobile homes and all I can say is that I'm thankful that I didn't have to.

Engineers only build what they are _told_ to build, it's naive to think any employee (even the all-powerful engineer) has the freedom to make decisions about how the business will operate.

In truth engineers often push back on features and business practices that seem sketchy and unethical. Their in-demand skill set and good salaries allow them to be more assertive and demanding of their supervisors/employers, but they are also just employees and have limited power to affect change.

from the article: > Imagine waking up one day and no longer being able to check your Gmail, buy things on Amazon, or book an Uber.

I think that would be great, provided it was a global thing and not just individual.

I bought an HP Victus 16", AMD CPU, 32GB RAM

Ultimately the deciding factor was the price and the GeForce RTX 3070 GPU, it was on sale, and Linux drivers were available for all of the hardware.

I'm running Pop! OS and haven't had any issues.

I haven't used the new generation of MacBooks yet, but I might request one from my employer just to get a feel for it.

The Apple experience is more polished for sure, but after Linux, I doubt I will accept any form of proprietary OS/hardware for my personal computer ever again.

Yes, for me it was the poor value proposition that made me switch. I do prefer to not be locked-in to their ecosystem as well, but I will admit that my overall experience with Apple is positive (phone/laptop/etc.).

OP seems to have a poor experience with them and is switching for that reason.

That's really what did it for me, I like Apple products and think they are great quality, but I don't think they are good enough to justify the price; and for me, the "status" that comes with it (if any) is worthless.