wigglyartichoke

All this stuff can very much lead to depression, and there seems to plenty of evidence that depression changes the brain

There's a reason emotional security is 3rd on the Maslow Hierarchy, after food and physical security

I think a lot about Victor Frankl's description of the use of dark comedy while in concentration camps

Yes, a social feedback loop, but the internal feedback loop is what causes the downward spiral

Lonely people are weird because there's no social feedback loop, a lot of teachings are "self-taught" (for example how not to be an asshole), and even in engineering there's a "different" way self-taught engineers think

For a lot people this lack of a feedback loop started as children. In the worst cases, where there's child hood abuse and neglect, any seeking out of positive feedbacks either goes unheard or punished

The feedback loop reinforces itself in the short-term because being lonely and staying in the "hell you know" is better than dealing with the social failure, which might "prove" you don't belong in society and it will never change

Breaking the negative feedback loop is the hardest thing to do especially being born into it

What's an example? I'm just a hobbyist when it comes to c++