volfied
Joined 16 years ago
Joined 16 years ago
https://amp.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/sep/13/senten...
We ended up finding a behavioral specialist who worked with her on a weekly basis. From age 2 to 3, and through some of the pandemic. The day she said "I don't think your daughter needs me anymore" was one of the happiest days of our lives. I still say "Thank God for <specialist's name>" every time the topic comes up with my wife, or friends.
She challenged her, got her to come out of her shell and talk to her, and my daughter is about to start kindergarten this year. She still has verbal tics, and loves to stim by running back and forth, but she's also interacting with all her friends, loves to play imaginary games with herself and her brother, and if you didn't know her past, you wouldn't ever assume it about her.
So, yeah, find someone to help. It's worth it.
That being said, his reading and math abilities are quite good and we attribute that to videogames, and a healthy dose of Mo Willems books.
The self comparison is supposed to make me feel grateful and happy about my situation, and yet I feel guilty for having the freedom and flexibility of my tech job with it's pay and all other benefits. Doubly so when I look at my son's kindergarten teacher and everything she deals with. I volunteer at the classroom to help as much as I can, which helps both me feel better about what I have, and helps the teacher and the kids.
But that cognitive dissonance / guilt is always there in the back.
The fact that the author is not even recognizing "how much less money earned is worth" summarizes the entire problem. I wish you could pluck these people from the castle they have built for themselves and throw them back into the real world as a fresh 20 year old and tell them to do everything they did the same, and see how it turns out for them.