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The specific numbers would make a big impact, and it depends alot on what we define as 'harassment'.

Is it 20 among a class of 600? Or is it 20 among a class of 50? How pushy are they about it? Do they stop if I tell them I don't care once? twice? twenty?

These are all relevant questions but it feels like many folks are automatically treating it as if they make up half the class and they're doing the absolute maximum amount that's just under what would be considered 'harassment'.

For what it's worth, most of the people in my college classes (including myself often) didn't give a shit about any part of the class except for the grade.

I think often we way over-weight environmental factors in this area. As individuals we have crazy amounts of agency to change things for ourselves. FWIW I barely dated in school, partly because I didn't care much for social interaction but also (maybe mostly) because I was quite clueless about romantic attraction. Since graduating and especially getting into my 30s, things have become so much easier.

Especially as a male, you can really change your situation by consistently choosing to invest in becoming a compelling partner.

I mean, yeah? If it turned into harassment then no, but the post itself says that's not happening.

How is this any different from Bob talking your ear off about some hobby that he has that you have absolutely zero interest in? You just don't listen or tell him directly you don't care. This thread makes me feel like I'm going insane, this is basic human interaction.

This is a fantastic suggestion. Probably not going to be applied by this professor but I love the symmetry of 'playing games' back and forth. Sounds fun honestly, as either side.

what do we know? genuinely asking

Definitely identify with this viewpoint -- I've heard the same feedback around the worldview being "unhealthy" but I would actually argue it is more accurate and provides clarity for me in regards to my relationship with my work. The main positive as I see it is in avoiding frustrations stemming from things completely out of my control.

> A lot of social life for kids happens online.

I think that's a big part of the problem. I want to encourage more of that social life to happen in person. I would feel bad if I was causing them to miss out on IRL events.

The thing is, the half-life on this is ridiculously short. My approach now is to start flossing ~2 weeks before my biannual dental appointment. I always receive high praise about my gum health.

Take from that what you will.

What a weird way to frame things. Grocery delivery is just a job specialization reality. There are many things I wouldn't do for others what they currently cost me, but that doesn't meant they're automatically unsustainable.

why does it matter what channels you're in? i just mute all channels except for the ones that i actually care about. my channel list is probably in the low hundreds but i hide it anyway and just use stars to show the ones i often navigate to

It is a shame that by default, Slack is set up to be high-interruption. But this is true of any IM app and I wouldn't necessarily call it a problem of the app itself, I mean they are building an "instant" messenger. I agree with the author that it's normally counter to my own goals (like deep work). But this is a ridiculously easy fix -- you just turn off notifications, whether visual or auditory.

If your workplace requires instant responses over Slack, that's a problem with your employer and/or their culture, not the application.

I personally find Slack to be fine. I have all notifications turned off (including the red badge), and set myself as permanently away. I use it as a lower-latency email, and for that it works quite well.