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interesting. i'm guessing from your spelling of "programmes" that you are not in the US - where are these programs you speak of? i'd be very interested in reading about them.

Yes, thank you. The white knight attitude can be very frustrating and give the opposite of the desired effect. We are an asset, not something to be saved from other fields.

Agreed. I am only one data point, but i have no degree and I am a female dev. We're out there.

This is an important point. While the industry isn't always super welcoming to women, that isn't the whole problem. Lots of women just have other interests. We'll probably see gender parity in IT when we see gender parity in nursing.

yes, you're right about a) and b).

the bottom line was that he didn't understand my code, and he thought i wasn't smart enough to write it.

So true. Best to stay clear of those kinds of people.

Thank you, I will take this advice to heart.

I think this is exactly what I will do. I've already completely excused myself from the politics and any interpersonal issues that come up. They are not relevant (and I work with one particularly abhorrent racist/bigot) so I just don't even engage.

This is good to know. I think a startup would be a great fit for me in many ways.

Thank you for the perspective. I take the requirements on job listings very literally and definitely underestimate what I have to offer. I will broaden my search. I am not in a tech hot spot, but also not in the middle of nowhere.

i am quickly adopting it as my general policy, too. i'm tired of the insecurity, neediness, and negativity that accompanies that mentality (along with the things you mentioned).

ugh, i would imagine not.

thank you for the link! if i had the experience you guys were looking for, i would absolutely go for it.

this is my first job in the industry, and i've only been there for less than 3 months. i'm afraid i won't be able to find another job with my experience.

ha - that's a good point. i hadn't thought of that.