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It's liquid alright (public).

Interesting - my friend, without being particularly charismatic, is indeed very likable and has worked with some of the people involved for decades.

Let's say maybe calibrated risk appetite. Too high of a risk appetite has its own problems especially long-term.

They did tell me that the business was working well. I didn't care to ask how much they made from it, and it is public knowledge at this point, I just never bothered to look it up.

Whatever is to handle is not between us but 100% in my head, I agree.

Thanks. What were your takeaways from it?

Undoing in what way? Btw my friend hasn't changed in ways that I've noticed.

I am definitely feeling more inspired than jealous.

I'm sorry to hear that money stole your friends...

> Would you feel like you’re wasting time in your job if he was broke or the startup was struggling? Probably not.

Right, that was my experience with other friends who got into the startup game.

> Unless you can turn this feeling into actionable steps that improve your wellbeing - stop thinking about it. It’s completely worthless otherwise. Comparison is the thief of joy.

I'm definitely not jealous and I'm not even sure I'm envious but there's definitely an unhelpful comparison going on in my mind. I completely understand this from a rational standpoint - but trying to remind myself not to compare myself to others hasn't actually resulted in me comparing myself to others less. I need the thing that helps me go from "I understand this line of thinking leads to unhelpful feelings" to actually stopping the thinking. My mind goes there on its own...

I'm already there! Living well below my means too.

Maybe if that's how you know them. This is someone I know from before wealth and who hasn't been acting as a stranger though. I didn't know they had become this wealthy until very recently.

Did you keep any friends from your pre-money days? How did the wealth change your relationships, where you hang out, etc.?

Lol exactly! Thank you for this. For now I'm at the slot machines all day getting soaked on cheap whisky and I just saw a high roller come out. Maybe the best move is not to play.

I'm very happy for him and I don't feel jealous or even envious. It's only causing me to question my professional choices.