squishington

Yes, I made a blanket statement that is inaccurate regarding personalities in general. So your point is correct. But I don't really care if healthy personalities change much. I get along with them fine. I was thinking of the NPD (undiagnosed but obvious over 35 years of observation) person and the BPD person (formally diagnosed) I've known. I really don't believe NPD people improve their condition. The changes always revert to the normal. I just don't want people to believe in a false hope that these people actually change. And no, no one can facilitate that change except a therapist specialising in those conditions. And the improvements are marginal, if they occur at all (most of them just blame others, reject a diagnosis and find new narcissistic supply). Most therapists would suggest disengaging with them. If you beat your head against that wall, you will lose your sense of self and waste years.

I haven't misunderstood anything. We are talking about narcissistic personality styles. They don't change. Yes, healthier adults have some flexibility, and can grow with experience. Narcissistic personalities are rigid. They can't self reflect. Whether you call it relative stability or stasis doesn't matter in the context of thia discussion. A narcissistic person is not going to have a watershed moment in response to a life crisis and all of a sudden decide to take accountability for their bad behaviour. They will continue to falsely identify other people as the problem, because it conflicts with their false sense of self and grandiosity.

The generally accepted view in psychology is that personality does not change over time. That is partly how it is defined. It's the part of us that doesn't change in adulthood. Yes, people can change their behaviour. But those changes are not occurring at the personality level.

It's important to be able to recognise behavioural patterns that suggest a narcissistic personality. Once you've established that, you need accept they won't change, because personality doesn't change, it's a stable pattern. Some people can spot these patterns due to long life experiences and know cutting out is the only option that leads to growth.

The excess energy dissipates when you realise the commensurate rewards don't materialise, after a few years. But if you also have family wealth, it doesn't matter so much.

You're right. I suspect there are class factors at play too. A lot of education happens in the home when you're privileged.

That's quite funny, but the new recruits at my work place are super smart and full of piss and vinegar. Much more motivated than some of the older workers. The problem is that they will work lots of unpaid overtime, and they have no idea about work boundaries and being exploited by employers.

I bought a fair phone 2 when I lived in Germany in 2016. Got a software update when I moved back to Australia. Bricked it. The kernel debug interface has no standard header, and required a fine pitch soldering iron header. I rented a German post box to send it to, as you need a European address for support. I tried to send it twice, and it was refused by German customs. I gave up and now I just buy cheap second hand Motorolas and unlock the bootloader, put lineageos on them. I think giving new life to discarded devices is more ethical anyway.

The labor party doesn't know what it stands for anymore. The HAFF was supposed to make housing more affordable, but the housing minister said explicitly that she doesn't want house prices to decrease, rather increase at a rate slower than wage growth. But they have no plan for how to grow wages. So they are speaking out of both sides of their mouth, and the electorate will hear what they want to hear. Labor will make housing affordable for my kids in the future. Labor will protect my investment. The whole thing is a farce.

Well I live in Australia. The situation is quite different.

"Almost universally, any time closer to today is better for most people in most ways than a previous time"

Wind that back 20 years. Yeah we got cheaper computing. Luxury items got cheaper, necessities got more expensive. I can make do with a 2010 think pad, but my rent is cooked and I'll never own a house. I'd rather be born in the 70s than the 90s.

I was referring to the relatively newer situation where house prices have outrun wages, which is more of a 21st century phenomenon in Australia. The capital gains tax discount introduced in the early 2000s largely contributed to this, and housing became a government supported avenue for lazy and secure investment. It has resulted in a wealth transfer from the young to the old, or to the offspring of investment property owning families. When you couple that with the worst renter protection laws in the western world, and very high rent growth, it has become a destroyer of social mobility that once existed in this country.

Regarding your first paragraph, I don't think the psychedelic experience is predetermined by the substance. There are common traits we all experience on a substance of course, but everyone has a different nervous system. Maybe Lilly even had a touch of schizotypal personality disorder, I don't know. Based on what I've read from Robert Anton Wilson it seems like Lilly was always a strange person, and difficult to understand. I see a bit of narcissistic grandiosity in him. In all his interviews and writing he never really acknowledges his research failures, for example. I think these personality traits could have contributed to his far out experiences and strange belief system. I think he really liked being seen as out there.

I think the benefits will be short lived. The long term outcome is a new class division (asset inheritors versus pure wage earners with no inheritance). This is a terrible outcome for society. I'm not convinced high house prices generated a lot of wealth for governments. Government debt is higher than previous decades, and government asset ownership is lower. I think this has been a bad strategy.

I grew up in regional Australia. All of my friends from there moved to the city because they wanted careers. Myself included. My friend who stayed there still works in farming and lives just above the poverty line, and can't compete for a rental so he lives in a shack in a paddock. House prices there also became ridiculous after the pandemic.