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The way that I’ve tried to handle this is to focus on equalizing “total time per week spent on managing cards”, which requires time-tracking but is more fair, and also negotiating a modified set of cards.

The book kinda suggests both of those but I think that in practice most people don’t implement them.

And, as you said, the tone of the book can be off-putting at times. I still feel like it’s the best available resource for this problem.

Comment · 2 months ago

There’s a pretty interesting self-help book that is designed to help couples share domestic and family work equally; I thought it was an interesting read. It makes exactly the same point about rockstar husbands that contribute less than their spouses.

https://www.fairplaylife.com/the-book

The central idea is a set of 100 cards representing various tasks that are necessary for running a household, that you split up between the two partners. Supposedly women tend to hold ~80 of the cards in most relationships.

The online discourse around this book can be kinda vitriolic (lots of examples of it starting arguments) but I do think that it’s a good starting point if you want to genuinely try to contribute equally.

Comment · 2 months ago

On the reddit mobile app, the same action (tapping) that minimizes a comment also clicks through an ad, and ads are visually very similar to comments.

Many times a day, I will accidentally click on an ad when intending to minimize a comment.

Comment · 2 months ago

This is a really well-written short article, and I agree with it completely.

I just wanted to add as well that, as someone who has read quite a lot of books on self-help and productivity, there is one that makes a lot of similar points: "Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts--Becoming the Person You Want to Be"

https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/22544758-triggers

I recommend it to anyone who agrees with this article and feels like a book-length treatment of similar ideas would be helpful to them.

Comment · 2 months ago

That could definitely be it. I didn’t get a clear view of the driver’s seat, so I don’t know whether or not the driver was manually controlling it.

Comment · 2 months ago

I personally saw a Waymo in NYC on June 26th at 14th St and 8th Avenue, so they’ve done some recent testing at least.

Comment · 3 months ago

This exists in clang for C++ as the statement attribute [[clang::musttail]] and in gcc as [[gnu::musttail]]