monoideism

I worked in another profession for 15 years before becoming a professional developer. I can't say definitely that empathy is much lower among devs than among other people I've worked with. But I got used to it.

They are very upset with what they see as growing authoritarianism from the government -- particularly wrt many covid interventions. (for what it's worth, I mostly disagree but I do see signs of growing authoritarianism among many on both the left and right)

> See, it's as if the US military trains soldiers how to hide in the Appalachian, raid local villages, and steal food and ammunition from trucks,

You should hang out near Fort Bragg sometime. The Special Forces train exactly as you describe.

Also of note: most of them are very unhappy with the way things are going in the US. I disagree with them frequently, but they also have some good points.

> their theoretical ability to fight their government with small arms adorable and misguided

Taliban? Vietcong?

Long covid often includes easily quantifiable issues such as lung and heart issues.

I didn't downvote, but what does this have to do with what I wrote?

> My guess is that more educated women are less willing to be stay at home moms and that correlates with your demographics. When you have a degree and dreams of a career, giving up on them is harder.

That was pretty much my point.

This attitude toward stay-at-home moms is not generally found among the poor, just among middle class and up women (and men), typically left-leaning.

Most poor mothers I've know would love to be stay-at-home moms because they're only working to survive and not for personal fulfillment, and because they love their kids.

> and ultimately it didn't make it in

Well, it's clear from the movie Marion was very young when they had an affair. We don't know exactly how old, but she says, "it was wrong, and you knew it" and "I was a child".

I love the movie. This was one of his big flaws. He's not supposed to be a moral paragon - he was a grave robber and antiquities trafficker, after all.

Edit: Supposedly, the actual script says she was 25 when they meet again, which would have made her 15 at the time.

> Feels like there was something more that led America to Bosnia, and it wasn't just our benevolence and saving the world from itself.

There was a lot of pressure to "do something" in the Balkans, and the military wasn't averse to showing off its goods, so something was done. Imagine the media pressure with Yemen x1000. That was Bosnia and Kosovo (probably mostly because it was in Europe).

Also, US military has intervened militarily in Syria, many times, and even with troops on the ground. Did you miss it?

The Uyghurs are a poor analogy, because despite the intense oppression they're under, they're not being mass-murdered. And a humanitarian intervention in China due to Uyghur situation is just not in the cards, because realism.

So sure, Bosnia+Kosovo interventions weren't just "benevolence". It was a convergance of factors (power dynamics, US President open to idea, media+public pressure, limiting intervention to air campaign, etc). But it wasn't an oil pipeline or some ridiculous conspiracy, either, like I sometimes hear.

> We had Bosnia during Clinton years.

Oppose them or support them, it was literally American bombing campaigns that stopped the Bosnian genocide and the ethnic cleansing of Kosovo.

Yes, that would be:

50%: some combo of good luck, genes, diet, exercise

50%: some combo of bad luck, genes, diet, exercise

I had my first kid at age 34, and part of my deeply regrets not going sooner (wife is much younger). I had some serious health issues by 45, which impeded by ability to raise my kids the way I wanted.

Adopting in 40s? Will the parent even still be alive when the kid graduates college? With good luck, genes, and good diet/exercise, yes. Otherwise, likely not.

Back in my 20s, having spent HS and part of college running track and cross-country, I’d pass guys all the time in their bikes that cost more than my car in my $200 used bike that didn’t even have clipless pedals.

Those days are long gone now, but it was highly satisfying to see the look of panic on athletic, rich banker’s face when some punk kid in a t-shirt, shorts, and cheap bike passed him going up a hill.

> How was I ever going to afford a kid’s college fund? How was I ever going to afford a kid’s college fund?

Uh, lady, you’re 37 years old. If you seriously want a kid, you need to approach finding a spouse with the same seriousness and intention you (admirably) now approach finances. Otherwise, it ain’t gonna happen.

But I guess that’s another article.