midnightmonster

Which AR glasses? I'm looking more for a travel MacBook virtual display that doesn't weigh so much as the Vision Pro. I would gladly trade away most of the Vision Pro features, but I'm also a huge snob about pixel density so remains to be seen if I can tolerate alternatives.

I think I understand what it does and it looks interesting and appealing. My team would need Ruby support. Not sure if you'll be able to connect the graph properly in Ruby, but it might still be useful.

The law firm I work for (as lead software engineer) did the TN thing for a Canadian software engineer hire for my team last year. [I was not involved in the paperwork but] my understanding is we got an immigration lawyer to help us write everything the right way, since we had not done it before (and lawyers specialize), and it was not especially expensive and it all worked out quite quickly.

Remarkably clear, straightforward, and useful material.

Ordered, and I'm grateful you showed HN. One of my teenage sons is a brilliant improviser, and I'm thrilled at the idea of having a plug-and-play way to capture what he plays.

I have done, and I’m pretty comfortable working for hours in it, but I generally only use it for work when I’m away from my home office, so nowhere close to daily.

...did not subdue anger in the participants _as much as throwing it away did_.

Just writing it down and filing it also seemed to help, just not as much.

This might just be the sort of people and companies I hang out with, but at my last gig two of the other three developers on my team had failed startup founder in their career history. Ditto the product manager at my current role and some chunk of my local tech friends. Job market is always changing, but it hasn't been an obstacle for people I know, and when hiring I see it as something to talk about but not likely to be a problem.

I was glad to have the opportunity to try it, and I’ll probably try it again, but I only made it two minutes into my five minute singing bowls immersion before I got too annoyed with the experience and stopped. (I’m easily annoyed with meditation, too, fwiw.)

Background: I have only worked on small teams, usually in small companies. I have done hiring and firing and had one newly-hired employee dealing with burnout and others with other mental health issues.

I'm assuming the boss/company cannot afford to keep you on indefinitely if you're not productive. As a manager, how I react to you bringing some version of this to me honestly depends a lot on how promising I thought you were and how well you seem to be doing so far.

If you're doing really well and I had no idea you were feeling burnt out until you told me, I want to find ways to accommodate within whatever my constraints are and help you get on your feet. Likewise if your work quality and productivity varies a lot with some excellent and some disappointing, though it's critical that some be excellent, or at least excellent-given-your-level-and-how-long-you've-been-here.

If you haven't given me much reason to believe you're going to be a great asset to the team eventually, I'm sympathetic but it's going to seem like a bad business decision to pay you while you drag down the perceived 'bar' of productivity.

I don't think I'm (very?) autistic. Still, I share all 4 points of experience with OP, most frequently with one person with whom I've worked off and on for 15 years. We've grown over the years and learned to some extent to accommodate each other's way of thinking and communicating.

As I wrote in another comment, I think it's very helpful to notice the mismatch between how I understand myself and how others perceive me. It's also worthwhile to find ways to bridge the gap. E.g., in the "rewrite the checkout in React?" scenario, OP might be perceived as more open to the question if they offered, "That's not a small project, but we could definitely do it" before asking questions or if they started with an open question like "What might motivate us to rewrite the checkout in React?" instead of a closed (yes/no) question.

Learning to speak in a way that helps people understand your intentions doesn't require compromising your truth-seeking values: it lets you enjoy the journey more with more companions.

When you notice your self-perception is out of alignment with how other people perceive you, especially on an axis you value (e.g., intellectual humility in the author's case), I think that's a great occasion to spend some time analyzing how much truth there is to each perception.

If you discover your self-perception is wrong, the next step might be thinking about how you can change your behavior and clarify your own judgement. If you determine that others misperceive you, the next step might be thinking about how to change that.

The author didn't get far into a next step, but the first step is critical and valuable as far as it goes, IMO.

If you had a friend who frequently spends their own money and time to help other people, those other people take credit for their work, they don't get paid, and they feel guilty if they ever resist doing these things, but they don't feel good about how they spend their time and they're feeling used--

- do you think your friend is obligated to keep acting this way?

- what beliefs would you guess your friend has that guide their behavior?

- what beliefs would you encourage them to adopt instead?