metamicah

> It seems like you're saying "yeah you're a girly man, that's what you are now, better learn to embrace it" rather than "learn to express yourself how you want".

It's true, I am saying that. I think the root problem is how the parent comment author is being treated, rather than how he is acting, since his main motivation for changing how he acts is to be treated differently.

He's free to reject my advice, but I know that when I was a younger person going through the same thing, it was exactly this advice that helped me survive after many years of only being ineffectively told that I needed to "man up."

I share in your pain. This world is openly cruel to men that don't follow gender norms, and we often have to wear uncomfortable masks to keep ourselves safe from all the jerks out there. It is exhausting to wear those masks all day, and sometimes we just can't take it anymore and have to withdraw from everyone.

But there are also lots of people out there that know better than to mistreat someone for their gender expression. There are people out there that even find it worth celebrating. If you there is a community of nonbinary/gender nonconforming/genderqueer organizers near you, that can be a good place to start looking. And maybe someday, with enough help from your community and possibly therapy, you can learn to celebrate yourself for how you express yourself too. You are worthy of it.

No, it's corporate income tax, a direct tax imposed by the federal government on corporations. The rate can be 15% to 35% but there are so many deductions available that large companies like Amazon are often able to dodge it completely. For instance, the article mentions a $917 million deduction on stock options exercised by employees, which was probably the bulk of the deductions.

The comment you responded to specifically says "in the context of the unlimited future of the company" which I took to be much longer than a year.

That 20% drop brought its stock value back to where it was a year ago, which was an all-time high for it then. Investors that have held it for longer than a year can still sell it at a profit.

Your desire for a "hipster small town, built around bikes and walkability" describes the cores of a lot of college towns: Olympia, Missoula, Boise, Eugene, Arcata, Davis, Bozeman, etc. They all have good coffee, too! Not sure if there are similar towns in Canada.

However, a common lament in these towns is that housing costs are increasing as people move there from the cities. It can be... socially awkward... to be a carpetbagger in a place where everyone knows everyone else's story. Maybe that's why you've mentioned taxes and basic income in your comment.

A lot of this advice (pay down high-interest debt first, have an emergency fund) is reasonable no matter what the market conditions are.

But the common wisdom is that "time in the market beats market timing." Since these boom-and-bust cycles tend to happen over 7-10 year periods, and you really can't predict when they'll happen exactly, I think a market-related investment can be rational at any point in the cycle, as long as it's considered untouchable for ten years.

Some of these functions (like SIGN, STUFF, and PARSENAME) set off little alarms in my head that sound vaguely like a full-stack developer furiously yelling "DON'T HANDLE THIS IN YOUR DATABASE LAYER."

Of course we don't always have that option, but I feel like I have to acknowledge those alarms if I'm going to use them.

YMMV but one method I like to mitigate the issue the article talks about is keeping documentation in source control, and requiring a change to documentation (or explanation why there should be no documentation change) in association with the resolution of a JIRA ticket.

Maybe it's just practicality: there's not much business sense in having leaders that publicly work against some of the most deeply meaningful interests of a significant portion of their employees.

I'm a solo developer in a non-tech group and I'm all about this. I add every idea to the issue tracking system. I prioritize based on consensus, feasibility, and alignment with our group's strategy. Half the ideas won't ever materialize and that's okay, because the other half are more important.

You mentioned how you're different from a bunch of dating apps -- do you see your app as primarily competing in that space? My first reaction was instead that if successful, your app would do more to disrupt the Meetup.com space than say, Tinder.