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The point that you're missing is that nobody knows at what point their parents will experience severe health decline. That can happen at any time, people have strokes in their 50s or in their 80s.

unfortunately, this isn't one of those things you can plan your way out of. It's just part of dealing with life. if you're lucky, your parents will start having health problems once your kids are in school and don't need round the clock care at home. If you're unlucky, well, good luck lol

well, certainly we need a full-time job. rent isn't free, diapers are not free, doctors are not free, etc.

in the utopia where I don't have to care about money, yes, I agree that it would be not an issue caring for both. :)

then why not have an annual "please help us keep the government running tax" and at least be honest? Why invent taxes on things that don't make sense?

A tax is usually applied to help facilitate maintenance for something you are using. Or to disincentivize "bad" behavior. For example i pay taxes in the US that directly help pay for public schools, the fire department, roads, etc.

How does the french government bear any cost if i download data from a data center? What bad behavior is disincentivezed with this tax?

> The things normal people with healthy relationships want to be doing.

agree - mostly. Anyone with a young child _and_ aging parents in poor health at the same time can tell you it's hell. Dealing with 1 at a time is a nice "calling" and way of giving back. both is...something i'd wish on my worst enemy lol.

educate yourself a bit before calling others dumb. There is a LOT of evidence that (most) screen time, especially addictive tech like a smartphone, is bad for children. Especially their mental health.

I'm sure it's bad for adults as well, but school aged kids are in their formative years where learning how to talk to someone in real life is a skill that needs to be developed. Their brains are also not yet fully developed, so their time should be spent learning. Not fucking around in class on tiktok.

I was a student at one point myself and also wasn't able to use my phone in school. Boo-hoo? It's a bit like being a kid and complaining to the adults in the room that they don't let you smoke and drink.

then I suppose you and everyone you know has basically broken their brain with toxic social media. Or similar?

my spouse and I (30s) had no problem sitting through the new Spider-Man movie without opening up our phones.

Well, it's not strictly about baby, but in general there's lots to keep track of.

my spouse had a vaginal delivery and had some tearing. So she goes to pelvic floor therapy for that. Once a week. She's also a breastfeeding mom and has a lactation consultant that comes to the house a few times a month. As the father i need to make sure someone (or I) can watch baby during those appointments.

then of course, for baby, there is the occasional pediatrician appointment. my kid needed some physical therapy due to a neck issue (always leaned head toward one side). The physical therapist was amazing with that, but during that process we discovered that he had a very weak core, and so we continued physical therapy for a couple months afterwards as well. so that's about 4 to 5 appointments a week just for baby.

Then there are regular appointments you also need as a functioning adult… Dental cleaning, PCP appointment, etc.

then, while all of this is happening, you are somehow trying to schedule a tour with various daycares (via email usually) so that your child has some place to go if you eventually need daycare. and all of this is happening while one of you is probably trying to work a 9 to 5 job.

so in summary, maybe I'm crazy, but that's a lot of shit to deal with when you also have to deal with poor sleep and learning how to be a parent at the same time. I'm burnt the hell out and i have an "easy" baby. Heaven help you if you have a difficult kid.

i'd argue any parent, especially of a young child, could use 20 personal assistants lol. So that's just false. There's SO many appointments to keep track of in baby's first year of life, and that's if you have a healthy baby.

And once they start school there's an endless amount of deadlines and "reminders". A personal assistant that can automatically keep your reminders + calendar up to date based on your inbox would be very nice.

It gets even more fun if you have an aging parent at the same time as you have young kids. Then you get double the appointments to scheduled, coordinate and keep track of.

So when you say people don't need a personal assistant, i feel like you're living on a different planet. I suppose when i was single things were more "simple". Your mileage may vary of course...

I'd like to prevent my children from viewing / modifying certain parts of the home. Is that so niche?

have you looked at the process for becoming a singapore citizen? It's EXTREMELY selective. There's a reason they have great cohesion.

The ICA says it considers factors including family ties to singaporeans, economic contributions, qualifications, age, family profile, length of residency, ability to integrate into Singapore society, and commitment to “sinking roots” in Singapore.

Emphasis on:

> ability to integrate into Singapore society, and commitment to “sinking roots” in Singapore.

It turns out, immigration problems are usually a "skill issue". It _can_ be done well.

You're correct, if we're being pedantic.

But will you be hired to do video editing on a tablet? REAL work like for a media company or movie studio? No. ipad skills are mostly irrelevant if your goal is to be employable. The advanced animations and workflows are not being done on tablets. Most people like being employable.

At least kids in the 90s learned how to use a desktop, which directly translated in some way to an office job.

They’re not purposely cozying up to china, they are just short sighted. like all US policies and politics. china is playing a loooooong game. we are trying to win this quarter, this year, etc.

So you’re saying if I pointed an LLM, say GPT 5.6 Sol, at a PDF copy of a textbook and asked it questions about something i’m stuck on and don’t understand, it wouldn’t be able to teach me anything?

learning is not a passive activity. likewise an llm can be used in a passive or active fashion.

> But isn't that "burden" on others always going to be there, whether you or AI wrote it? That's what communicating is...

I think it can be OK if AI is used to polish up one’s message or to help structure it. Basically help with grammar, formatting, and wording.

But copy pasting an AIs response to a question? Not at all. People earn a reputation over time. TRUST is earned. An AI cannot earn trust. If you copy paste an AI response verbatim, i need to read everything in your message with a big grain of salt. Imagine doing this all the time as a reader? Exhausting and a waste of others time. If i want to read raw AI output i’ll ask the AI directly, thanks.

If you write something in your own words, or at least synthesize an AI response before sharing it with me, then i know i’m reading something that has at least passed the smell test.

It’s the difference between reviewing a pull request from an intern and a principal software engineer.