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Some antidepressants work for some people for some time.

Its often that folks have to try a bunch of them, each for 5week to 3 months at a time, with side effects often making them worse rather than better before landing on the "right one"

And even then you end up having to periodically up the dose, then eventually stack it with other drugs to mitigate side effects before eventually it becomes ineffective and you have to start the process all over again.

I don't see why bother when exercise has better results.

Go lift big stone, make sad voice in head quiet.

Go sit in hot room.

Eat good

Get sleep.

meh. I'm switching from Discord to Guilded.

what free software movement? Sure the skeletons of orgs still exist but everything has been co-opted by corporations. "Free Software" is just corps outsourcing of sofware creation to suckers who do it for free or for the love, or the corps that took over those projects

it held so much promise. but now open source just exists to empower capitalists with the free labor of others. It's more than a dead dream, it's grown into something inverted against itself.

Linux is everywhere and effectively dead at the same time. What's the point anymore.

Technology is just one big HR department, one big ticket system, one big pair of khakis we can all collectively wear, one big Teams call. All of it.

It was all a mistake.

communication and compromise and all that stuff is a two way street. I mean this in romantic relationship, society, work relationships, just...everything.

We've come to accept the one who professes "hurt" must always be bowed to. And at first this makes sense. We SHOULD be empathetic to other's pain, suffering, annoyances and irritations and we should try our best to smooth out relations and get along. But this dynamic creates a power imbalance. The one who complains, the one who is slighted is now given control over those they claim slight them. And this power is often abused.

This is the "two way street" part. It's trying not to offend when you speak..but being CHARITABLE when you listen; meaning you interpret the words/actions of someone in the best possible manner, give them the benefit of the doubt.

Maybe he worked hard, had moments of stress and liked the dish by the sink? Shouldn't she just let the little stuff go? The point is... if it's always one sided, always one person not letting it go, or always one person not being empathetic to the condition of others.. it's bound to fail.

The whole "you're not wrong but you're an asshole" can go for the one slighted as much as the one not-intending-to-but-doing-so-anyway slighter.

My biggest problem about the author isn't even the content - but the whole thing is phrased the way it is for clickbait bc he's trying to sell a book.

My point is... relationships are about mutual-ism Mutual-ism that exists without having to keep score.

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I would guess 90% of people who's eat ice cream for breakfast would be the type to consistently make bad health choices.

People should stop being concerned with their labels and where they fit and more concerned about their character, actions in how they care for themselves and treat others, and their accomplishments

Obsession with identity is narcissistic by its very nature. It was one thing when kids were worried about being goth or skaters, ravers or metal heads, yuppies or hip hoppers. Eventually you grew out of that shit

But now that political, gender, racial, sexual identity is ALL IMPORTANT people spend endless amounts of time on it. Adults do. Endless. My HR department sends me invites to speeches on this garbage at least 2x a month.

The only thing identity obsession is good for is an empty life with lots of time advocating for political shit that doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things, and some increased time with your therapist.

Your labels don't matter. None of them. No one cares except those staring at themselves in the mirror.. Oh I'm sorry it's 2022. In their own tiktok vids.

technology serves capital more than society.

the # if people in the US with glucose monitors says differently.

As a parent it becomes super apparent how many interested parties, especially child-less interested parties, are interested in capturing the minds of your kids. Be it to make a buck, to further their political cause or for something sexual/nefarious. Or even usurping their minds and psyche into something destructive as an ignorant and unintended consequence.

Then all the "stupid" authoritarian, seemingly arbitrary and maybe even paranoid shit your parents pulled all of a sudden comes into focus and understanding. You, more easily see, how irrational panics happen/occur and sometimes when those panics aren't entirely unjustified

You buy albums

I'm 10 years ive spent 1000s on vinyl.

In 20 years spent even more on digital.

I have tons of things not available on streaming.

Regardless, the fact my listening gets to be an isolated activity, the fact no one can take it away? Priceless

pi hole is as great as those blocklist filters people used to add into Torrent clients or using tools like PeerBlock.

It's just so faulty and pointless.