jrgoff

I got it in the US in my late 30s or early 40s - I think it was even at One Medical (though I assume One Medical may be fairly different now after Amazon took it over). It was covered by my insurance.

I've had conversations in recent months with several friends who are non-tech, "granola" type folks. They pretty universally expressed dislike for and concern about AI, but then when the conversation turned to whether they used it for anything, the all admitted that they do appreciate being able to use it for some tasks. I think it's complicated for a lot of people (myself included).

I like digging into well designed puzzles and figuring them out, but also - like the author, I like interacting with friends around puzzles and the group dynamic and power of bouncing things off of each other, as well as the reduced likelihood of stupid blind spots.

When I played through Blue Prince, I had an important area of the game undiscovered for in game weeks because I just didn't notice a path that was not meant to be hidden. It was in an area that it made no sense for me to further explore because it was challenging to get to and seemed to have nothing else to offer (I presumed until I had unlocked something further in the game). It was a big relief when I was talking through my progress with a friend who was further along than I, and they prompted me to go back and look again.

Thanks for this - it looks interesting, I'm planning on giving it a try for my low level reflux that's been bothering me for over a decade (but always had other health issues that seemed higher priorities to try to address).

This comment reminds me of my own socially anxious belief that I am boring, that people don't want to hear what I have to say, etc. And I have had plenty of evidence to reinforce those beliefs. As I have been working through things in therapy though, I have realized that my wounded mind grabs on to those things that reinforce that negative belief and tends to be dismissive of things that would contradict it. I've also realized that because I have those fears/wounds I often interact with people in ways that are more likely to elicit disinterested responses - I often have a flat affect and emote little, display no enthusiasm when communicating about things that I care about because I expect that the other person won't be interested or care. I wouldn't be surprised if I subconsciously have chosen friends who re-inforce those beliefs as well, I think I sometimes feel uncomfortable when people do respond enthusiastically toward me.

Some of my early experiences as an adult that broke my heart open a little were also with children - I don't have any of my own, but when my nephew and niece were young they were so open and enthusiastic and happy to see me it got past my wounded defense mechanisms.

I just started using apple tv+ again this month - the only pre-rolls I've noticed are previews for other shows/movies and the previews were skippable.

I'm not sure how this fits in, but in my experience a further complication as someone with chronic pain/illness is that often the thing that bothers me the most isn't what I would describe as painful. I would describe it as very uncomfortable but on a different axis than pain. As a simple example that I think most people can relate to - I do not think of being dizzy as painful, but it's very impactful if you are dizzy all of the time. I had an episode of vertigo that was one of the most miserable experiences of my life but I don't think I experienced much pain during it.

I guess if the goal is to tell whether the person needs pain meds that complication may not matter as much since they don't help (afaik) with those symptoms. But I do sometimes feel like my health problems get taken less seriously if I report on my pain levels rather than my discomfort and/or how it impacts me. Eventually I found a migraine pain scale that focuses on how it affects your life rather than directly how physically painful it is and that helped me have a normalized system for reporting.

I don't know what gets taught in school these days about what was done to the native groups in the US, but when and where I went to school (in the US a few decades ago) we were taught about a number of very bad things that were done: Intentional spreading of diseases, broken treaties, forced displacement, etc.

I do think there are a lot of things bad that we did and do that get ignored or glossed over but a lot of it does get (at least briefly) taught and as far as I know, other than government secrets that are recent-ish, information about these things is not repressed.

I tried to send a message to your the feedback email address on your dustmite guide site but gmail told me it was undeliverable because the address was not found.

What I emailed about was asking what you meant by biweekly for washing bedding - is that twice a week or every other week?

As a man in my mid-40s who has gradually become more aware of my emotions and the need I have for connection, I disagree. Of course I can't make claims about anyone else's needs or happiness, but for myself my life has been a lot better as I have built supportive friendships. I don't feel infantilized, I feel more able to have my needs met, be happier, work through blocks that are triggered by old wounds, etc. I feel more capable of living a satisfying life.

That often happened for me in grad school as well. Generally the questions I had trouble with on a take home exam would yield to late night inspiration. And if they didn't yield by a semi-reasonable time, I would go to bed and many times, as I was drifting off, an insight would come to me. One memorable time though, that didn't happen and I woke up several times in the middle of the night from stress dreams where I was trying to solve the problem. And when I thought about the dream, nothing I had been doing in it made any logical sense to actually help me with a solution. Fortunately I woke up early and was able to figure it out in the morning. It was not a very restful night of sleep though.

Empathy may not be the right term for this, but I've noticed recently times of emotional resonance with some characters/stories. One recent example that I particularly noticed this with was actually a Harry Potter fan fiction. It was fairly well written, but you know, not exactly fine literature. But I noticed how activated my emotions were getting reading those stories, the anger coming up about how the character was being treated, the sense of righteousness in her response to the circumstances and people around her.

I'm not sure if that helped me understand other people better, but I think it may have helped me understand myself a little better. Get a little more in touch with my emotions about parts of my own life. A little catharsis.

And this is not the point, but I think that getting in touch with my own feelings more probably does lead to more empathy for me. I've definitely noticed that when I feel more compassion for myself, I often also notice an increased sense of compassion for others who I perceive similarly.