guntherhermann

This is a fascinating take that I've never really considered. Thanks

> It is just that these are risk-averse and socially shy men who tended to either not go to the school dance or if they did were glued to the walls, not getting picked by any girl and not in possession of enough testicular fortitude to go and ask one because (shock and horror) she might (would) say no and start giggling with her friends about that "weirdo" wanting to dance with her.

I understand that what I wrote is much (much!) easier to say rather than do, but well... there's only one way to find out :).

> These ´AI girlfriends' and 'AI boyfriends' (I guess those exist as well) are just another sign of the way dating and sexuality have been dehumanised, commercialised and in some ways ideologically weaponised.

Interesting take. I'm lucky that I've been in a great relationship since before hyper internet dating became a thing (tinder, bumble, etc)

> We fought quite hard to arrive where we were a few decades ago, by no means perfect - perfection is the enemy of good - but certainly better than before and also better than most other places so it does not make sense to throw all those gains to the wind in the name of... what, exactly?

In the name of shareholder profits :)

Well, I have to spend about 7 hours a day inside on a computer, as I'm sure you do too! I have to spend my time doing 'something' while Jenkins does its thing :)

PS. I'd say it's more 'exasperation' at the scenario than annoyance at the words. We could sit here playing reductio ad absurdum all day, but I don't think it's useful to do so.

But it's not flippant, it's genuine, that is the answer for these people. It is really that simple (for 99% of people). Yes there will be outliers that this doesn't work for, but those are outliers.

HN comments always give the shitty outlier response whenever anyone says something like I'm saying. (e.g. 'What if I'm quadraplegic and autistic', etc) It's a shitty contrarian take that I don't have time for.

Edit: for a literal example someone has posted about old people sitting in care homes and how this is a great tool for them. Completely ignoring the fact that they're in a care home full of people, in a city. It's shit takes like this that make me regret posting anything, because some HN wanker will have some shitty contrary take, because they think this is an argument 'to win' or some nonsense like that.

Go out, get a hobby (or many), you will meet lots of new people, and some of those people will become your friends.

People just like to make excuses. I have childhood friends who do the same. Sit at home playing video games all day, no other friends, no job, no life. Waste of a life.

They live in their mind, and their mind is a prison.

These tools can be used for good, but used in this way (AI girlfriends), I can't see it as anything but a problem.

These tools aren't for helping people's mental health though, are they. They are becoming attached to fantasy beings and sad when they disappear.

That is the OPPOSITE of healthy, and it's clearly having a dramatically negative effect on their lives.

These aren't tools to help people get better, they are gamed to make it more appealing to the user than the real world. That is damaging to society, and if you want to use my argument (like a few of your siblings have), like I'm saying 'Just get healthy!', go wild, but that's obviously not my argument.

You're coming from an angle that I've never had depression or struggled with anxiety. I actually do know how to conquer these things, and it's done by putting yourself out there into uncomfortable situations and seeing what happens.

We struggle more in imagination than in reality.

I understand this may be an unpopular take here on HN (it certainly isn't in the real world), but but I can't see these people as anything other than pathetic. Go out, get a hobby, and meet real people. Jesus christ.

I think OP is imagining Snake Plissken saying 'Metal Gear', as he does

We have 'freedom of expression' and case law, but these things end up having to go to court, so I think it being written in a constitution would be better.

Wow, I get this! I never knew it was something other people experienced, usually it sounds like doors being slammed or big bangs. It's really odd

If you believe what people say, instead of what people do, then you are going to be disappointed by many, many people in your life.

It's a cliche, but it's true: actions speak louder than words.

You are the things you do, not the things you say you want to be.

It's against the rules to editoralise the title to be clickbait, it isn't against the rules to submit the literal title of the post.

"Keep at it, it can be frustrating at times but if you keep studying and practicing how to become a better developer, you will become one"

There are no shortcuts in life. You need to work at it. Cognizant practice got me there, and I think it will get you there, too.

I get people asking me how to become a programmer all the time -- and I always say the same thing: You can't talk about it, you need to do it. You need to write programs, writing software will make you a better programmer.

Have opinions on how to write good software, be open about these opinions, but also be aware that they could be bad opinions, misinformed, or lacking greater context.

Our job is to think about problems and solve them, I'm in completely agreement with GP