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If you read the book you'll notice that I-messages are a rough approximation of the tools. Sometimes I think this summary does more harm than good by presenting it without the richness of the book

I think this summary offers template solutions. They are an approximation of the insights of the book. The book is more about relating a human experience to a conversation,

Read them all. The ROI is so high you may as well

I've personally found this book more valuable than any other mentioned in the thread and I challenge skeptics to read it.

There are a lot of bad communicators on this thread

Sadly I'm talking about a city in the top 5 VC funded cities.

I'm sad my comment came off as snooty. Its not meant to be. I'm not the smartest guy in the room by a long shot. I've just seen things that people in smaller ponds haven't. ICs at my last company in the bay make more than very senior people here. All of the cost of living calcs are essentially BS unless you have kids

Thanks. Its not a shortage of recruiters or available positions:)

I don't have prestige, I'm not a 10x coder, I'm not special. I'm sure you have reasons for what you do. I don't like SF or the bay and I'm happy you have a great family.

I'm not saying people other places are bad or lesser, I'm saying the opportunities in SF are that much greater.

No, only that your career and development will benefit from staying in those places

You can also become very 'senior' in level without exposure or experience that would be comparable to somebody in SF. Its a bummer when you live there, but the whole city lives and breathes tech. You can't get that elsewhere.

Having just moved from SF to a smaller market with a 'lower cost of living' I can tell you DO NOT DO IT

The value you lose from your current and future network alone is so devastating that any NerdWallet estimate of your costs is total BS. Lookup how much networks are worth to lifetime earnings

Now your job sucks? Good luck getting a new one you like. Either move back or find something that 'works'

Lastly, your coworkers will be from a smaller pond and instead of learning with the most experienced, you'll atropying your progress as you argue for basic things with people who've never worked in a big pond.

There's a reason people go to hollywood for movies and SF for tech. A bunch of them actually.

Hahaha. Its nice HN will give a voice to Neo-Luddism even if its content borders on trolling

I could be lead to that conclusion, but I see this another way. Running the business of a multinational pharma company doesn't qualify you to judge primary literature in microbiology, methods, or data science of the results. It also doesn't help you differentiate claims from hot air in this emerging space. Considering the maturity of this field I think these are the skills required for due diligence. I think a pharma CEO as well as you and I are at the mercy of pop-sci reporting.