dekleinewolf
Joined 4 years ago
Joined 4 years ago
I'm 39 and divorced 3 years ago.
For me, my saviour was my 'third place'. I have frequented a spot since I was 18 where I can basically go any evening and there will be friends I know that I can chat with any time I need it. It makes not having a partner so, so much better.
And I also missed talking about the random small things in my day that no one except my partner really cares about. I deal with it by partly suppresing it, but I've also just decided that occasionally whomever comes into my path, be that a coworker or a friend or a family member will have to deal with it :). (Making sure I don't overload specific people to much). But the coworker right next to me at work definitely gets more little details from my private life than he would if I had a partner, and he happily deals with it :).
Programming is harder and more specialized, but it's not harder work.
I have always had programming jobs (job title: software engineer) that required the 'researcher' mindset. We didn't mind teaching them our stack or even good coding practice, but if they didn't have the 'explorative/innovative mind' of a 'researcher', we could never train them up to the level they needed to be.
The company I work at worked on this one: https://inovo.nl/
I don't think these numbers are exceptionally high but they're not low either.
Source: Former SWE, current PM in the Randstad.
Think 'serverless' technology - there is still a server, it's just no longer owned by you.
Seeing how the customer had to wait for the labor to be executed anyway in the past, I see this as a win.
I also still very much agree with Joe. Everyone derives pleasure from other avenues.
For me it's playing an actual musical instrument with other people. Not writing blogs.
I sew clothes. The vast majority of projects I start get finished. Sometimes I'm happy with the result, sometimes I'm not. I wear them regardless. My kids wear them. After a while they grow out of them.
Goal achieved, project finished.
Me? I'm an engineer, when I 'argue' with my co-workers, it is with the goal of finding the best solution. I don't care whose solution it is. I want to find consensus on what is the best solution.
Also Hackernews: Ever since Corona started, I hate my job. I wonder what changed?
And then they notified us by means of an ai-generated poster involving a photorealistic image of a violinist and pianist playing in an office setting. But not the actual artists, no, fake real artists.
And I feel like that is such an insult to the actual artists? Like, these are real, actual people, with real skills, that are doing real work, and apparently that's the same as these two fake non-existant people?
So yeah, I share your sentiment. But I may just be old woman shouting at clouds with the old man.