bliss

"however iperfect" encapsulates exactly my point - we can't know - but jeez, we try as best as we can

I'm pretty lousy at asking people what they feel, my job role, thankfully, has an optional people management component, I've opted out. However a mandatory (welcome) part of my role is mentoring, coaching, call it what you will. I need to listen to junior members of staff sharing their woes and it's a two way flow of ideas, they often share, or overshare their difficult life moments, and at that point, I hang up my "mentor" role and just listen, I'm not their manager, I'm just their colleage, in fact, their friend. Empathy, as I said is guessing, but I do everything I can to do my best guess

Assumption

I work for a well known media company where I live, a brand, our grad scheme is really good (disclaimer I'm a small part of that) and attracts the best of the best out of colleges, people like having my company on their CV, it doesn't do any harm, our allumni typically go on to have good careers, or stay for the long haul. We love it when our people take the skills we've honed into, for example, Amazon, JP Morgan and amazingly often return to the fold and are welcomed back with open arms. There isn't a prestige trap really, but maybe we just think we're the best of the best and going anywhere else is just for rounding out experience.

Jeez, I read the whole of that, it was a rollercoaster of something (his art) or someone I thought I knew and somehow got to the person, good writing

This sounds very much like the fraud/risk part of the business are not correctly joined up with the sales function. LEGO - you should have your guys talk to each other more often... maybe make Fraud/Risk a sign off on sales decisions?

I interpret this to mean that human brains work best with constraints, artists do this all of the time, constraints are great

My brother in law works in aerospace, he worked on a project which involved a mars mission - the catastrophic error was that part of the software worked in metric and part of it worked in imperial measures. Each independantly worked in factory testing, but together the imperial readings threw the metric system (it was just a number) - or vice versa - no one caught the error

I agree, empathy is a bit fake, you have to guess and I for one will do my very best to guess what others are thinking and feeling, but at the end of the day, being in someone else's shoes is a guess. Compassion is entirely solid though. Both are needed.

btw - Caro Numquam is what I came up with

Don't be me - at work c. 2001 - heard about a colleague who was "vegetarian" but ate fish and sometimes chicken... I wanted to create a pseudo-scientific name for this way of eating. I was thinking something along the lines of eats some meat but predominantly vegetarian.

So I opened up google and typed "Latin meat" - the results did not translate to the latin for meat!

Ha, I have a couple, created in 2011 - who knew (well... remembered!) - now going to archive and delete them

10 years ago, my daily grind, nowadays rarely, but good to have in the back pocket