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- It helps me find better ways to write code.

- Helps me write LinkedIn recommendations for friends (after I give it context)

- Helped me write other official communication

- I’m learning Java, it helped me solve a one-to-many relationship problem. I would have struggled to articulate the problem in a Google search.

- I hardly use stack overflow these days, unless when chat-gpt is down. (I’ve been try to pay for the subscription for a few days, I don’t know if it has to do with my location)

- I wanted to design simple schemas for a microservice, for learning purpose. And it created all the tables for me. In tabular format!

What if it’s bring your family along for a four day weekend.

I don’t. When reading an interesting article and have to do something else. I convince myself I will get around to it some other time. But deep down I know it’s a lie. If it is important. I will find it when I need it.

Get a personal laptop if you use your work machine for your regular internet surfing. I find that turning off my work pc and keeping it out of sight... in a drawer, helps me switch off after a while.

And every morning, I perform my morning rituals as if I’m commuting to work, before I pull out my laptop.

Hello there. There is always a way out, don’t feel trapped. I was in a similar situation recently, although as an employee. I turned down some job offers earlier in the year. Then coronavirus hit, my job became stressful and it is not easy to find a new job now.

I used Tim Ferris’s fear-setting principle, you can find it on YouTube. I evaluated the worst that can happen if I walk away from my job. I lose my income, and lose face with family and friends. In your case the loss of your hard-earned equity.

Then I computed my monthly expenses against my total savings. To see how long I can go without earning a dime. In your case you should include the amount you send to your mum as essential... Please don’t consider it a burden. For family and friends, they will all be fine in the long run. At least those that really care about you.

This steps will give you perspective on what will happen if you lose everything overnight.

That is on the most extreme end.

You are not trapped. You can take a break from day-to-day tasks, for a day or a week. You can speak to the other shareholder, of the need for a CEO, or someone or two people to handle the task you don’t like. Or they can only come to you for decisions that are extremely important.

If the business suffers as a result of any of these. That should be an acceptable price to pay. Please find a way to accept that.

Also please leave the house more often. I find that morning or evening walks are good for the mind. And some form of human interaction can improve your mood instantly. You can find opportunities to volunteer in non-tech endeavors, where you can interact with people that have a common goal and more positive outlook on life.

I hope this helps you. If you want to talk to anyone, you can reach me through my bio.