alukima
Joined 14 years ago
Joined 14 years ago
When I started looking for a job last March I realized that the monetary compensation from the offers I had were within a few thousand of each other but on only one of the interviews did multiple employees bring up that they were a true 9-5 and people actually get mad if you reply to emails after hours or do work during your off time. Their offer was $4000 less than the others and they didn't seem like they wanted to negotiate. I took it anyway and I now work 40 hours or less per week, I leave my computer at the office and I don't feel guilty for not having access to work when I am not at work. So even though I make a little less yearly, I am making quite a bit more per hour.
I wish more people in positions of choice would prioritize a true work life balance. Not only has it been great for my physical and mental health, non-developer employees get the same treatment as it sets a company standard.
I can't believe how long I bought into the culture of giving up a personal life to get a head at work. I used to put in 60-80 hour weeks and still feel like I wasn't contributing as much as I should. Now I have hobbies(!) and I think I solve more programming problems working in my garden than I ever did sitting in front of a computer.
When these things are brought up it's not to say only women have to deal with these things- we get to deal with all the regular bullshit and a little extra.
Like a an extra layer on a bullshit cake.
No it's a consequence of men seeking out my social profiles on other sites and offering to give me "extra help". Also dick pics.
>I'm asking people to critically examine a concept and judge for themselves
That's exactly what you're being asked to do. Women in the spaces, including myself, aren't looking for things to be angry about, we are looking for acceptance and the ability to enjoy our hobbies/passions and professions in peace. Insisting that everything is just a misunderstood friendly gesture is ridiculous and part of the larger culture that make certain groups of people feel unwelcome in tech.
And once again, why do you think that women haven't already examined this and realized that the interactions they have in certain environments are something beyond needing a little understanding? It's not like women walking into hackerspaces haven't been around nerdy, awkward men before- half of them are nerdy, awkward women.
Implying there's a simple solution that is summed up as "women don't understand!" is ridiculous.
I am an awkward person with social anxiety. The idea that women like myself aren't already doing that is part of the absurdity.
If I was looking for something to get offended about I wouldn't hide behind male usernames on Stackoverflow, my local user groups, Hackernews (obviously not this account) and Github to avoid conflict. I just want to be a normal part of tech communities, on and offline.
It's absurd that you can write off the large portion of women who say there's a problem because you don't want to examine you're own internal biases.
I have the ability to tell the difference when someone is treating me a certain way because I am a newbie or because I am a woman.
It's incredibly insulting that every time this is brought up it's written off as women not understanding basic human interaction.
Or he just wanted to do what he thought was the right thing. I hire day laborers through a local service on a regular basis. I pay the workers directly and I am supposed to give them $9 an hour. I typically pay them $15-$20hr an hour at the end of the day.
Nice to know that this time consuming, expensive and racist process is also pointless.
It would probably be much easier for them to stick to one thing but that wouldn't fully utilize them as a resource.
Most of that 850,000 lines of code is likely boilerplate setup code.