alexander-litty

TW, possible depictions of loving families & depictions of unwanted contact:

Nobody should be arguing against any kind of trigger warning in those spaces. If someone is pushing back, they should be removed from the space -- They're actively working against the point of the space.

>Which nobody is ever going to warn for.

I will now in those kinds of spaces.

Anecdotally I've also seen trigger warnings for father's day and mother's day, which seems like a trend in this direction.

>I have no idea what makes violence or sexual related cross the line into needing a warning

Well, nobody can know for sure :) Many of us have to guess when we put the trigger warning in, more so if we can't relate to the trigger. That can be much harder when you're dissociative but it's hard in general.

What's helped me is to mentally flag any potentially unwanted contact, physical or verbal, and find the best trigger warning that captures the text. Sometimes that means leaving a warning for just that, unwanted contact -- Sometimes I can refine that further to a kind of abuse, e.g. sexual or physical abuse.

This is an excellent comment. Thanks for sharing your perspective in such great detail.

>Their existence is defined by mental turmoil and acute pessimism.

I’ve been trying to find the words for this - I (cis male and married) don’t feel this way but many of my peers do. It is disheartening; a very real black hole of anguish.

If you’re not already, try using nutritious food formulated specifically for pigeons or doves.

Seed-heavy diets, even if formulated for pigeons, are very fatty and may not make them feel great after eating. And bread is basically junk food for birds! So if you try a more nutritious blend of food made for them specifically, they may really enjoy it and come back for more.

Plus I imagine gulls won’t bother with their tiny food.

It’s transphobic in the “hydrophobic” sense. I don’t think he merely pushes back on activists; I find he delegitimizes the movement altogether.

Which, disclaimer, I do think anyone should be free to do. But people who are offended must be free to share their thoughts as well, then.

It’s akin to saying alcohol addiction isn’t a real addiction. It’s not that you’re making fun of alcoholics, the idea of an alcohol addict, or the behavior and recovery of an alcohol addict — You’re instead devaluing the idea that someone can be addicted to alcohol, falsifying their reality.

Sure, many people can laugh at that, but it’s only going to be the people who can’t relate. The people who have never been familiar with or been victim to substance abuse can probably laugh at the idea that you can just “stop drinking right now, there, problem solved, now what was so hard about that?” because the idea is so foreign to them.

Humor will always be divisive, which means as a comedian you alone wield the responsibility for where that line will be drawn. Chapelle intentionally draws it on personal identity.

I think we can support better comedy than that. Anyone can make an in-crowd; A great comedian makes you the subject and makes you laugh about it too.

Fascinating! While I’ve definitely heard “brackets” used in the midwest occasionally, “parenthesis” is the standard term by far.

In my lifetime, “parentheses” has been the canonical way to refer to () in the US. “Brackets” is an umbrella term that can describe one or all of (), {}, and [].

If you’re in a context where only one of the bracket types would normally be used, you can just call them “brackets.” Since many people never really use [] and {}, “brackets” casually refers to ().

To disambiguate, you can call () “open brackets”, [] “square brackets”, and {} “curly brackets.”

And for the cherry on top, {} can be called “curly braces.” That’s my preferred term for them. But it’s awkward to call [] “square braces” and () “open braces” :)

It looks like you can specify the value type per property, for those cases where it matters.

> No competition at all.

> Owner is so far ahead of the competition, impossible for anyone to catch up.

:)

I think the 1.0 magnitude is there as a placeholder. The advisories say to ignore it:

>Please disregard earthquake parameters

You're living in the shadow of someone else's expectations!

Of course you're going to feel this way -- You don't deserve that, and emotions are going to ensue. That is the human in us, and that is the human in you.

> Can’t make myself do anything anymore

Your motivation is tapped out from carrying these weights you never asked for. It's not your fault you feel this way.

> Im not achieving anything, no matter how hard i try

And you never will in the land of unreasonable expectations. Your work ethic isn't the issue, it's the impossible bar set before you.

> On my 6th month of doing barely anything and it’s already December

You're burnt out. It's okay to sit with that feeling for awhile. It takes time to realize it.

> I’m regretting that i didn’t use the time to achieve something meaningful

Regret comes from a decision. This wasn't a decision, you simply were not able to use the time as you imagined.

Mental health can be just as serious of an obstacle as broken bones. When your legs are sprained, you can't regret the run you couldn't take. When your brain is clouded by emotion, you can't regret the work you couldn't make.

> I have money, but i’m miserable and unhappy

There is an expectation placed upon you that money should make you happy.

It sure does not! And you are the living proof. There's nothing wrong with you. The expectation is wrong.

Shelter, security, and fulfillment make us happy. Money cannot help you acquire all these things.

> I feel ashamed of being that guy who is always depressed, angry and sad

You deserve to exist as you are. There is no shame in feeling this sadness and this anger. Emotions are part of the human experience. They do not ruin our value.

It's also natural for some people to have trouble with emotional company. Frequently people are taught to suppress emotions and that is projected onto others, perhaps this is happening to you.

I'm happy you're here today. I feel no shame or disappointment for you.

> All i dream of to make a contribution and somehow make an impact

You are on a quest for glory! If this quest is your own, and not from an expectation set before you, you will find your way.

You must take care of these feelings first however. It's all part of the quest or, if you prefer to see it this way, a prerequisite. You cannot conquer your dreams with this fog.

> Yet i struggle to find anyone who needs my help

I know one person who needs your help. It is the person who said this:

> I’m trying all my best to be a good person, yet i’m still not good enough for myself

You have to put on your own oxygen mask before you help others. Your wellbeing matters!

> I’m thinking my (dead) grandparents would be embarrassed of me being such a looser

To be embarrassed of you means they had expectations of you. This is the shadow.

You are not a loser. This life is yours. You may do as you please with it.

Not a great example. This bug was in one of the weekly snapshot releases, which regularly and knowingly have some unplayable element to them.

The FDIC-insured nonsense alone perplexes me. There is no web to spin here that favors them.

Did they really think they could get away with this? Or did they have a severe cascade of miscommunication? It is incredibly irresponsible and careless behavior either way.