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Thank you for holding up a mirror, dang! Being publicly called out came as a bit of shock and really got me thinking.

The comment above really isn't me. Or rather, it is clearly me (since I posted it), but I don't want it to be.

Where I disagree with you is the implication that undesirable people bring bad behavior with them and pollute this site. I think it's the opposite: something about this site brings out the worst in otherwise reasonable people. Or maybe it's all social media.

In any case, the negative effects clearly outweigh the benefits from participation. This will be the last comment from this account; I'll send a request for deletion. Thank you for accidentally curing my HN addiction! I'll be mindful of the door on my way out :)

So this is the male version of the trophy spouse stereotype. Focuses on lifting and courting, has an education just to check off a box, writes pseudointellectual drivel to pass the time.

Just as likely to be replaced by a fresher model in a few years.

Not an anti-vaxxer, but comments like this are even better antivaxx fodder :)

I understand where you are coming from, but the ultimate goal is to stop COVID, not get everyone a jab in the arm. If the jabs (legitimately) stop working we should stop the jabs. Compliance with COVID rules isn't a goal unto itself.

Vacccinating mice is a fun idea to think about, but you'd have to develop vaccines for squirrels, raccoons, and pigeons shortly after the mouse one. Also think about all the unintended consequences (your food vaccine getting into waterways, for example). So yeah, this is the kind of idea that makes antivaxxers look sane.

True. This one hit close to home for me personally, but I can say with confidence that therapy can make things a lot better.

There's a tendency to either coddle a person with these issues, or try to get them to change through tough love. The reality is that neither of these things is helpful - what is really needed is a good therapist.

P.S.: In case someone is reading this and nodding along: you have likely spent years on the roller coaster of trying to prove yourself through pathological self-sufficiency interleaved with breakdowns and "failure to adult". It's OK to seek help. Even pro athletes use coaches and personal trainers if they are stuck in a rut. This is no different. Oh, and you are far from alone in this.

And if you look at that particular prosecutor's record, there is a clear pattern of "overkill".

And it sounds like he was perfectly aware of this. This feeling of being "not really a man" can be overwhelming, and I feel like this is an incredibly toxic thing perpetuated by our culture.

It's possible to spend an entire lifetime trying to prove the opposite of this statement to the world, and most importantly oneself, and fail at this impossible task. But the saddest part is that because the majority of people think in these "man/boy" terms it's easy to start thinking that all people do.

The next step is to consider oneself hopelessly broken and unworthy of affection, and dismiss any real friendship as a pity party. And yet: there was an outpouring of love and sadness following aaronsw's suicide. So perhaps living up to the stereotype of manliness is not the most important thing in the world.

No, vei nid to do al the saim drujeri bicoz ze jenerashon befor vem had to :)

Olso, zis kaind of speling luks strainj to old pipl.

If your birth country isn't India or China, a masters could significantly speed up the process of getting a US green card. For India or China you'd wait a decade anyway.

There are even to this day quite a lot of houses in Russia with this exact setup. My grandparents old house had an oven stove and radiators. They replaced the oven stove with an electric boiler sometime in 2000s but kept the radiators.

Americans lost two skyscrapers and still talk every year about how the country was scarred. Yes, it was terrible, but imagine a country literally burned by fire from the sky, and future generations continuing to suffer through birth defects. The sheer magnitude of the suffering perpetuated in the name of "freedom" and proper values is staggering.

You and people like you are sickening.

But, to play devil's advocate, isn't this exactly what we should want, long term?

I think the end goal is for Black and autistic people to be thought of as people first and foremost, and their differences would take a back seat. This is the only way we can be one big happy family. Wouldn't the best way to accomplish this be for the rest to realize that they actually have something in common with the marginalized groups?

Imagine a white supremacist who learns they had a Black ancestor. That would transform their whole world view.

Same with autism: neurotypical people being able to relate to quirks that cause social exclusion isn't something to shut down. We should be celebrating the normalization of these things because that is how they stop being markers of the "other".

Sometimes I wonder what the people who are up in arms about being "not properly" Black, autistic, etc. have as their end game. Perpetual exclusion of the marginalized groups for sympathy points? I think many would gladly trade those points for greater inclusion.