Epenthesis
Joined 15 years ago
Joined 15 years ago
I have little to no sex drive (am "asexual" as the kids say), but I've had intense crushes/obsessive feelings about individuals with no associated desire to have sex with the targets thereof.
I imagine that for people with normal sex drives, both components play a role in initial relationship formation; ie, there's an emotional component in addition to "lust" as conventionally defined.
You could quibble that these (relatively short lived) intense emotions are "lust", as opposed to the "love" of a longer relationship, but that seems to be playing a semantic game that doesn't really concord with how we generally use those words.
For me, as an engineer whose worked across FAANG and YC startups in San Francisco, Angular has had absolutely zero mindshare for at least the past 6-7 years. Every company I know uses React and every engineer I know knows React. So it's interesting and somewhat alien to hear it being treated as the default option.
And it doesn't even explicitly state it, instead saying first "A person was able to react with emojis that correlated to “angry,” “sad,” “haha,” “love” and “wow.”" and then "If a person reacted with an emoji instead of the “like” button, the Facebook algorithm would see the post as five times more valuable and push similar content.", requiring the user to draw an inference that all emojis were treated equally, despite the priming that it only refers to "angry" earlier in the article.
This feels, ironically, like an intentionally inflammatory framing.
Not a lot of people hitting that regularly, but I imagine it can sting a little if you've got a more proletarian salary normally and are hitting that region just once because of say, a start up liquidity windfall
In the US, the title "Professional Engineer" is roughly equivalent and similarly requires a license.
But my sense is that we're gradually swinging back around to static typing via gradual typing + mainstreaming of ML style features like generics, unions, records that are more expressive than the C/Java model.
According to friends, OkCupid seems to be baaarely limping along in queer/poly circles.
However, it might be difficult for most people to orthogonalize these two components, since for them they occur simultaneously. That's the relevance of my asexuality to my comment: I suspect it allows me to experience the socio-emotional component without also experiencing the lust component, and thereby more easily see them as different.
If it's true that there's both a lust and socio-emotional component, it still seems inaccurate (or at least, idiosyncratic) to refer to the combination of the two as "lust".