Bjartr
Joined 17 years ago
Joined 17 years ago
I held weekly board game nights at my home for a year or two during the latter part of COVID. I loved board games and missed the weekly meetups that stopped happening due to lockdown. I only invited very close friends, all of whom are still very close. And I genuinely ruined my love of board games from how frustrating the experience proved to be. I put in a lot of effort to be a good host and everyone sure seemed to want to play board games, but over and over it was like herding cats once they were over. They were all acting in good faith, and yet that experience burned me out so much and my brain now associates board games with that experience so much that I barely play anymore, and don't enjoy it like I once did.
Now whether you want to use the label "introvert" or not, I was determined to push outside of my comfort zone that was staying in alone. But each of those dozens of nights drained me in a way that that cumulatively has left an emotional scar deep enough to impact my identity (being a person who loves board games was part of who I was, a part I liked)
I suspect that of the ways people will respond to this story, there are two that will be most common
1. What the heck are you talking about? I can't imagine having that experience
and
2. Yeah, that tracks
Whether or not you call those groups extrovert & introvert, and whether you believe such preferences are inherent, learned behavior, or social conditioning, here is a truth:
Trying to change your nature, however you came to have it, comes with a cost and can go wrong.
So for those who consider introversion to be mere choice, I encourage you to be less flippant in how you try to convince people of that.
> we don’t have a word for ... the ... distribution
> Until we have a ... word for the ... shell
distribution/distro and shell are exactly the words we have for these things
But OS sounds more impressive/important, so it's a lot more prevalent.
> Why is half the site blue now? I asked you to change one button.
> Half the site is blue. I asked for ONE button
Neither of these is an instruction to fix the problem, they're treating the AI like a person and telling it what it did wrong, expecting the implied admonishment to be enough to steer it back. But without an actual instruction, it just goes and does whatever it thinks will help, which is often arbitrary.
The response I would have used in this situation is
"The Cancel button is also blue now. Make sure the color change is only scoped to the Add to Cart button"
Most of the available responses throughout this "skit" are similar cases of expressing frustration first and guiding the result second.
Skip the emotion and say exactly what you want, and nothing besides that.
To make it easier to get insurance to pay for support. That's a big chunk of it at least. If each of these profiles was a separate diagnosis, it'd be way more common for insurance to deny paying even things like therapy for stuff in the long tail. Rather than have to re-argue again and again that people are worthy of support, the diagnosis broadens to help get that support to all that need it.
This is also true for ADHD, and I'm sure other diagnoses as well.
There's also a layer of making it easier to get kids the academic support they need when that support requires meeting certain officially recognized criteria. "Oh, little Jimmy's psychologist says he has Cognitive Disengagement Syndrome? We don't consider that as needing accommodations." It's already sometimes exceedingly challenging for parents to get schools to actually support their children when it's a commonly understood and accepted diagnoses like ADHD.