So just keep trying addresses until you get a reset link sent to you. It's really unacceptable for any service to leak its user list in the way you suggest.
EDIT: x1j7xJuzX in the sibling subthread has it right for email addresses. It's true that separate usernames would be difficult to handle in a user-friendly manner without leaking, but with a valid email address a separate username is probably unnecessary. It doesn't help the user interact with the site. If users interact with each other, they can just choose non-unique display names. To prevent impersonation, just use display name plus some other invariant account property to generate a hash that is displayed alongside the display name.
EDIT: x1j7xJuzX in the sibling subthread has it right for email addresses. It's true that separate usernames would be difficult to handle in a user-friendly manner without leaking, but with a valid email address a separate username is probably unnecessary. It doesn't help the user interact with the site. If users interact with each other, they can just choose non-unique display names. To prevent impersonation, just use display name plus some other invariant account property to generate a hash that is displayed alongside the display name.