Ask HN: Looking for advice – Failed startup, long term relationship at same time

Spent the last 12 months on a startup that's basically failed and over the last 2 months fallen into a dark and lonely place. I'm typically an upbeat and positive person, but this failure has taken a bit of a toll. All of the family and friends money is gone. I feel guilty. I'm in tons of debt and have constant waves of disbelief at how I actually got into this spot. Especially as it's all self-inflicted.

Adding another layer, my long term relationship with my gf just ended. We were together for 8 years.

Looking for advice from other founders that have gone through some dark days. Preferably over email or IM