"You guys" is gender neutral where I'm from, and I don't think you're entitled to redefine the term 'guys' as being specific to a gender where I'm from. "You blokes" or "You gals"... yeah... gender specific in my immediate culture.
At some point, you're going to need to accept that when some people use a term that's loaded for you, it's not necessarily loaded for them, and the problematic nature of the term is only problematic to you and your circles, and it's just not intended as insulting, demeaning, belittling, or othering.
At some point, you're going to need to accept that when some people use a term that's loaded for you, it's not necessarily loaded for them, and the problematic nature of the term is only problematic to you and your circles, and it's just not intended as insulting, demeaning, belittling, or othering.