Well Im more talking about situations like, say, at a bus stop.
My comments aren't from personal experience but observation of such conversations. Often the initiator is very charismatic - and usually fails to notice the discomfort of the other person. A bus stop (sticking with this example) is not somewhere you expect to be talked to - so it comes as a surprise; and the majority of people don't recover quick enough from surprise to their "head" to overrule and "gut" reaction (I find this sort of thing fascinating btw).
It's a sub-concious "gut" reaction with it's roots in the "don't talk to strangers" thing we are ingrained with as children.
You make a great point about how one should approach a meeting though (and I wholly agree with it) - in my point I never made a distinction between that and what I was trying to analyse :)
My comments aren't from personal experience but observation of such conversations. Often the initiator is very charismatic - and usually fails to notice the discomfort of the other person. A bus stop (sticking with this example) is not somewhere you expect to be talked to - so it comes as a surprise; and the majority of people don't recover quick enough from surprise to their "head" to overrule and "gut" reaction (I find this sort of thing fascinating btw).
It's a sub-concious "gut" reaction with it's roots in the "don't talk to strangers" thing we are ingrained with as children.
You make a great point about how one should approach a meeting though (and I wholly agree with it) - in my point I never made a distinction between that and what I was trying to analyse :)