"One of the most difficult social tasks is to join an activity that is already in progress." Basically that means going up to a group of people who are chatting. There are techniques for doing this but theory is cheap, execution counts.
Can you please give some tips on how to do this? This is something I definitely need to learn. A friend once invited me to a programmers/founders meet, which was in a bar. [little dark, loud music] I was a little late, tried "hard" to get into the already chatting crowd. They had formed a tight circle, standing, with their backs to me from every fucking angle. The friend just smiled at me and nodded and didn't do much else. I went around them like a moron, not finding any gap to step in, felt really foolish and frustrated, faked a phone call and fled. In my defense, I think I could have 'got in' only by pinching someone's ass. I rationalized it thinking "Fuck them. I'd better be coding right now anyways."
Can you please give some tips on how to do this? This is something I definitely need to learn. A friend once invited me to a programmers/founders meet, which was in a bar. [little dark, loud music] I was a little late, tried "hard" to get into the already chatting crowd. They had formed a tight circle, standing, with their backs to me from every fucking angle. The friend just smiled at me and nodded and didn't do much else. I went around them like a moron, not finding any gap to step in, felt really foolish and frustrated, faked a phone call and fled. In my defense, I think I could have 'got in' only by pinching someone's ass. I rationalized it thinking "Fuck them. I'd better be coding right now anyways."